Can I get some advice please?

[pattersondebra]

I'm sorry dear but I'm fighting the worse cold I have ever had. I can't afford to miss work so I trudge through the day with no sleep and hacking out a lung. Mind you I work on a production line so there is no sitting. Normally I would say how wonderful you are for being so nice but being in the same condition you are in I have to tell you to unplug your phone after you called his relative or so a senior citizen program. NOW is the time to say ENOUGH!

[jnjmolly]

Well it was very nice of you to do it the first time!! He sounds like he is going to take advantage of you, so I would call a program that could maybe help him if he can't get around and do things himself!!

[tantricia44]

cateyes1~ you've answered your own question, when you mentioned these words.....

 It just bothers me that here I am sick and he doesnt seem so concerned....

Your neighbor's not a friend, he's a user. In other words he's a narcissist who cares about nobody but himself! You could have your foot half in the grave & he wouldn't blink an eye or show any concern. If you were drowning, he'd watch you drown.

You need to detach yourself from this un neighborly, neighbor! Find his family, call the senior facility to check him out, you can also check his background out on the net, tell him that he needs to find his own caretaker b/c you've responsibilities that will prevent you from being able to help him, start changing your schedules, so he can't track you, & finally, change your phone number & don't ever give it out!

I personally would feel bad for this guy in need but when you mentioned he didn't seem to care about you when you were down; tells me, he doesn't deserve your friendship. He doesn't want a friend, he wants a maid/slave.

Good Luck on detaching this leech off of you!


 

[batmobile]

Hey
 Thats Very Nice of you i would defiantly do the same. i would feel kinda obligated to do it and it will make u feel good but only as long as you get your stuff done first.. tell him you can only do it certain days explain you dont mind that you just want to work out a schedule for yourself and you can only help him wen your not at work dont feel bad to stand up for yourself but also remember if hes older hes stuck in his own ways and prob old fashion so be polite.. Do what you can and dont feel bad to ignore himif your busy or sick because its not ur responsibility and you are already doing more than any1 else but i give u credit. what goes around comes around and you will have good karma for being a great person!

yeah same here. find out if he has friends or family too.