In school Bullying

[abryant21]

What do do you think about in school bullie?
Why do they do it?
And how would you deal with them?

[Notorious21]

Sometimes what I saw when I was in school, was the kids doing the bullying, just really want to be noticed.  They only bully kids so others will take notice of them & maybe accept them & be friends.

To deal with them...Well all I can think of is to tell them to stop & leave you alone & if that doesn't help, then telling a teacher or someone in the office or higher still to the principle about them & see if they can help.

Hope this helps.

[bowrunner]

Ohio has just passed an anti-bullying law named after a teenage girl that hung herself after being bullied.  It remains to be seen if the law will make a difference but schools are doing things to try to help the kids understand other kids.

[tzs]

Popularity, attention, not being properly associated with your peer group, overcompensating for a short comming in their lives, jealousy, lack of loving parents or support from parents in their lives, obsession with violence in general, stupidity, thinking that its "bad *bleep*" to hurt others, and get away with it, depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, borderline personality disorder, sociopathy, brain damage, learned behavior from family being abusive to one ahother and thinks its "normal", Abuse by an adult or another family member(phsycological, mental, and physical), humiliation, obsessed with suggestions of violence in the media and wishing to "mimic" that behavior, trying to make a statement and feeling that no one is listening, Loneliness, shame, feeling outcast from society, loss of a girlfriend or boyfriend, Drinking, using and/or abusing illegal drugs, has a "god" complex, has control issues, loss of family member or friend that sets the behavior off, moving to a new school, state or neighborhood and not fitting in well, gang affilliation, feeling that if you aren't tough, you will be taken advantage of, "leader of the pack" mentality, revenge, war, religious beliefs, and finally,
"Its what I grew up around, I know no other way."

Some of these things are recognizable, most of them go un-noticed untill its too late, and I am sure that there are many other reasons why, these are just a drop in the bucket.

[pirewolf]

For reason, they are so many was that a person can be incomplete or feel that bringing someone else down will in someway help them fix it or detract them from it. The last person pegged alot of them on the nose. The biggest reason is parents, they are busier, don't care as much, or just don't know what to do to make sure their child is really happy.
I think bulling is awful, but unavoidable. Mostly because if someone is bullied or bullies in high school they will do it as an adult, so unless we can stop it them people really just need to learn how to handle it the best way possible. The person I got baptized with and me got picked on alot. So bad that he committed suicide by hanging himself in his back yard while his parents are out. I was so upset, no one really seemed to actually care about him, they were just mad that it happened. Then I stopped going to church, people don't realize that they effect others. I had to sit there on Sundays next to some of the people I knew had done this to him. How could they even show their faces? What's sad is my husband started a job and it happened to him. 24 and someone was harassing him at work. You know that person did it in high school and got away with it, and now does it to people who need the work so they are scared to say anything.

The way to deal with it is keep any proof you have and tell someone. Don't wait and see if you can put up with it or chances are you will wait until it has gone to far. Even if you don't know who to tell, tell anyone you trust. That person can help you come up with who to tell, and even one person knowing makes you a little safer.

[sigmapi1501]

One of those things. Has always and will always happen.  Usually bullies are the result of bad parenting.  Parenting has gotten much worse as a whole, so I'm guessing bullies have gotten worse.  Also, no one can handle being made fun of anymore because we are so thin skinned and have taught our kids that "words hurt".  More ADHD medicine and anti-depressants should help, right? 

[bearjake]

If a child is being bullied the parents should contact the school right away. If they dont take care of it the police should handle it and the bullies should be expelled from school and legal action should be taken on both the school and the bully!

[jkalex05]

It's a way for them to feel better most of the time. Probably stems from his/her growing up and their enviornent.

[Azanne07]

Schools need to be paying more attention to bullying. I am not sure how the problem can be solved or limited but somethings gotta be done. it does not feel good to be picked on.