Please explain what this means to YOU?

[cateyes1]

If you love someone let them go, if they come back they are yours, if they dont they never were/was 

[MySavings4U]

Love is a two way street. If you let them go they will come back if it is met to be and they love you more.

[mintopewku]

I think it has to do with loving someone so much that you want them to make the choice to be with you.  Knowing it's a mutual feeling, etc.  If you think about your kids, they do love you cuz your the parent.  But you really see how they care as they get older and move out.  Do they call, visit, get on things?  It's about showing your feelings and being appreciative.  Sometimes people have to lose to learn how to really show how they feel.  We forget to say thank you to those closest to us, and we never say I love you enough. 

[dreamyxo]

It's BS.

[1goodputter]

If the person does not come back, then a long term relationship was not meant to be.  it doesn't have to be sad.  celebrate the time together.

[devo327]

I've let go of a lot of people for that reason. 20% of the time they would come back but just to leave again. So I guess it's true in a way.

[melinder]

When you let someone go and they come back to you it means that they need and love you

[tzs]

There is no analyzing this saying, It's literal......

[cody0608]

If the person you let go never comes back then it wasn't meant to be...they didn't really love you in the first place. 

[debidoo]

I don't know in a way this is a crazy saying, I don't think the letting them "go" is loving them, it is retaining some pride in yourself.  Now, if someone I thought I loved wanted to go their own way, I'd let them go because I don't want anyone who doesn't want me or doesn't want to be with me now the coming back part is equally wacky to me, because once they were gone I don't think I'd want them back bu ???t who knows?

[cateyes1]

I don't know in a way this is a crazy saying, I don't think the letting them "go" is loving them, it is retaining some pride in yourself.  Now, if someone I thought I loved wanted to go their own way, I'd let them go because I don't want anyone who doesn't want me or doesn't want to be with me now the coming back part is equally wacky to me, because once they were gone I don't think I'd want them back bu ???t who knows?

LOL, I love your answer, in an odd way it makes soooooooooo much sense 

[hicaniplay]

It's not really a general purpose saying, is it? It really depends on the situation - but if someone outside the relationship is saying it to you, they're probably trying to tell you you're doing something unhealthy for you or both. And if it's the other person, generally take it as their way of breaking up with you gently.

I did read an article once, that basically went the exact opposite route. A married couple with the husband going through a midlife crisis and wanting a divorce and the wife just refusing, because she recognized that it wasn't her or their family he was dissatisfied with but himself and not being able to do everything he once could. She just waited him out till he got over it.

Of course, I don't actually think anything is "meant to be" - you have to work at everything if you want success.
But you can't make someone love you, no matter how much you love them or what you do for them, they're never obligated to (unless they're a hooker, I guess lol). You'll just be stifling them, which generally leads to resentment.
So in that case, you can hope that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and that they'll realize what they had with you can't be found with someone else and come back.
I mean, people getting divorced and then remarrying the same person happens (my high school science teacher was three times married, the first and third being the same person).

Also people change, so the last bit isn't something I'd tack on. Just because it isn't now, doesn't mean it wasn't or that it was any less real.

[cateyes1]

It's not really a general purpose saying, is it? It really depends on the situation - but if someone outside the relationship is saying it to you, they're probably trying to tell you you're doing something unhealthy for you or both. And if it's the other person, generally take it as their way of breaking up with you gently.

I did read an article once, that basically went the exact opposite route. A married couple with the husband going through a midlife crisis and wanting a divorce and the wife just refusing, because she recognized that it wasn't her or their family he was dissatisfied with but himself and not being able to do everything he once could. She just waited him out till he got over it.

Of course, I don't actually think anything is "meant to be" - you have to work at everything if you want success.
But you can't make someone love you, no matter how much you love them or what you do for them, they're never obligated to (unless they're a hooker, I guess lol). You'll just be stifling them, which generally leads to resentment.
So in that case, you can hope that "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and that they'll realize what they had with you can't be found with someone else and come back.
I mean, people getting divorced and then remarrying the same person happens (my high school science teacher was three times married, the first and third being the same person).

Also people change, so the last bit isn't something I'd tack on. Just because it isn't now, doesn't mean it wasn't or that it was any less real.


Thank you for that, now this answer really really puts things into perspective..(spell check please lol)........it soooooo makes sense to me now 

[1goodputter]

If two people are meant to be together long term it will happen.  I speak from experience.  My wife and i were apart for a year, while we were dating.  We've been married for 23 years.

[loriecampbell]

It's telling me not to smother or to be overly controlling. That drives people away. Let them breathe, be themselves. If you truly love them you have to let it be their decision to want to be with you. If they don't....deal with the heartache and move on.