#That Past Ex

[kenny3991]

#ThatPastEx Your still friends with because you have too much memories to completely give up on.

[mh874892]

Haha, I think everyone has one of those! 

[bbmama1988]

I will say that our partners in life become part of our memories. Some good, some bad. Feelings were involved at some point. obviously. But what do you do in this type of scenerio?
You are married and have kids with your sponse. You are happy and life is great. You bump into someone who says that they are an ex. It's one of those that you don't actually remember. How far such you let the friendship go? What level do you pick up on? Talk and catchup. See if you can remember thru conversation?
How exactly would you men in particular handle this situation? :-

[mh874892]

I can't say there's been an ex I don't remember...
But I think once you are married and have a solid relationship, exes should not matter much. As long as you are honest with your partner about it, I don't think there is anything wrong with catching up with your past. You may still have some lingering feelings, but it should not be anything compared to how you feel with your spouse. Just don't try to hide it.

[bbmama1988]

I can't say there's been an ex I don't remember...
But I think once you are married and have a solid relationship, exes should not matter much. As long as you are honest with your partner about it, I don't think there is anything wrong with catching up with your past. You may still have some lingering feelings, but it should not be anything compared to how you feel with your spouse. Just don't try to hide it.

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So how would you interpret them when they just completely avoid the issue? When questioned about it, never gives answers or makes decisions. Doesn't clear up the issue at all. Seems very distant towards the topic. He just won't give me any answers. I don't know how to handle the situation.
This particular thing is an issue I am currently dealing with. And unfortunately this isn't the first go around with this particular problem.
Any thoughts would totally be 100% appreicated. 

[mh874892]

Honestly, it sounds like you need to tell him this issue is harming the relationship. Communication is a key part in any relationship, and if he can't talk to you about it, it is only going to get worse. Forcing the issue may be hard, but you can't just let him avoid it. I don't know yal's situation or pasts, but I think it'd be really hard to not know what's going on in his head and/or heart.

[tzs]

Yeah, I am still somewhat friends with my ex from High School, but he is still an idiot, and hasn't grown up yet!!!!

[bbmama1988]

Honestly, it sounds like you need to tell him this issue is harming the relationship. Communication is a key part in any relationship, and if he can't talk to you about it, it is only going to get worse. Forcing the issue may be hard, but you can't just let him avoid it. I don't know yal's situation or pasts, but I think it'd be really hard to not know what's going on in his head and/or heart.

That's a very good point. I try talking and communicating but he is pretty freakin hard headed. Total avoidance. Doesn't answer anything I ask. Even if it's his favorite color. "I dunno" that's all i ever get.
I have told him it bothers me. but he reminds me i'm bi polar, and crazy (there were some cuss words added) and that i need to get over it.
I was wondering if I am the problem.

[bbmama1988]

Yeah, I am still somewhat friends with my ex from High School, but he is still an idiot, and hasn't grown up yet!!!!

I myself am in touch with past friends. But we were NEVER romantic. He has been with these girls. ALL 6 of them. in a more than just friends sorta way. can't keep hands off each other. but say there isn't anything to worry about. i have told him how i feel. nothing changes. been going on since october to be exact. he hasn't always been this way .....

[mh874892]

It doesn't sound like you are the problem, in my opinion.

[africanclaudie]

I am still great friends with my ex husband. Too many years, children and experiences are forever a link between us. Luckily the moods, the flirting and the anger outbursts do not worry me anymore as I can now just walk away when he starts behaving like a spoilt brat. Strange how those little things that attract a person in the first place are the very things that really annoy one later on in the relationship.....

[Snoozey]

Yeah, I am still somewhat friends with my ex from High School, but he is still an idiot, and hasn't grown up yet!!!!

I myself am in touch with past friends. But we were NEVER romantic. He has been with these girls. ALL 6 of them. in a more than just friends sorta way. can't keep hands off each other. but say there isn't anything to worry about. i have told him how i feel. nothing changes. been going on since october to be exact. he hasn't always been this way .....

I'm pretty sure he's lying to your face... It really sounds like he's cheating on you and he doesn't even care that it's bothering you.

[premar16]

i am friend with two of my exs.One we dated when we were kids and life jsut got in the way .hes kinda like  a brother .The other one we had to much in commen that we never grew so we decided to let each other go so we could find out who we were and become adults were friends I talk to him every week and he is thinking about asking his current girlfriend to marry him.Im so happy for them.I am friends with his girl shes amazing and has doen alot for him maturity wise

[abdyer2001]

i still am tied to my ex because we have kids together,means there will always be some kind of tie.

[richcrutch]

Even if your ex cheated on you and left you for another, you still have to get along if you still have children from that marriage.