Parents valuing boys over girls.... what do you think?

[leung1245]

My mother has a favorite child, and it is NOT me (I'm the eldest)... it's my brother and everyone KNOWS it but we don't talk about it to my mom because she would deny it. Let's face it... many cultures in the world values boys more than girls... which is so wrong!!!

[cloudsoup]

maybe he's her favorite for other reasons, not just
because he's the boy. what is your relationship like
with her? if it's strained, maybe she finds him easier
to get along with not necessarily that
she favors him over you...

basing favoritism solely on gender is silly, in my opinion.
are you american?? i've never known american culture
to favor one over the other, which is why i ask.

[candyterrius]

That's because boys are expected to carry on with the family lineage.

[tvcrawford]

Of course. I think this is in most parenting situations; however the same can be said for parents which give leeway and have lesser expectations for there daughters.

[vicogden]

I don't think any child should be "valued" over another... I think they should all be "loved", and equally at that.  I have one girl and two boys and love them each for their individual qualities...

[yosav]

i think parents want both, if they have a son, then they would want a daughter, but i agree it seems that if they dont have kids yet they tend to want a boy

[mrisha]

I didn't think intelligent people still did that sort of thing.  They send the wrong type of messages to their female offspring that they aren't worthy.  That is really sad and hurtful to the receiver of such treatment.

[bigfoot951]

I don't know what country you are living in, but I have never seen such a thing.  Any parent that values one child over another is just crazy and that falls into it's own category.  I highly doubt that it has anything to do with the sex of the kids.  Besides I bet you aren't seeing this clearly and your mother doesn't really value your brother over you.

[sarabtrayior]

I think that's nuts, I prayed for a girl, and thank God, I got a girl and I am/was thrilled. She just got married, so I now have a son too...

[dreamyxo]

In India and China there is a clear preference for boys.

[kawmeenar]

I've never really seen that where I'm from. I think it may depend solely on the specific circumstances. In my personal experience, the parents seem to favor the younger one though, but that's just me ahah

[35klye]

hes not the favorite because hes a boy, but because hes the youngest. my mom does the same and everyone sees it, even my dad. whenever i tell her she does that she yells at me, its total bs

[leung1245]

I'm Chinese... does that answer all of your questions about my culture??
Plain and simple... Chinese people value boys over girls... PERIOD!!

[mardukblood2009]

It depends on the parent and the child. Did you ever hear the sayings " Daddy's little girl " or " Mama's boy, " well these saying reign true. It's just something you have to deal with.

[dodgers16]

    I don't think parents should value there children by female or male...your children should be valued equally!!!