HE CHEATED BUT WE'RE GOING TO WORK IT OUT

[JediJohnnie]

I commend you for having the courage for sticking though something like that.But there's no excuse for cheating.You certainly deserve better.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

yeah I'm pretty positive it won't happen again...I'm so shocked it happened in the first place, it was completely out of character for him.  He was a lot of things, but cheater -- never in a million years did I think...he is so old fashion in his values.  My sister told me to leave him and I deserve better but I love him so much -- things are still going well and it's been over a week.  We used to fight 75% of the time and we haven't gotten in an argument yet.  I mean I know arguing can be healthy but maybe 5% instead of 75% and over things that matter not "he said she said" fights...my whole family is just happier in general, including my son, 3 1/2, and daughter, 8 months.  He hasn't even really been hanging around his guy friends, which I told him, I don't want him to feel like a prisoner, I want him to go out with his friends -- I'm going to refer again to Sheri Meyers, she says that when this happens I will be more aware of warning signs instead of being so blind to what is happening.  I told him I don't have time to spy on him and I don't want to spy on him, I just want him to be faithful and he says it won't happen again.

[sweete0920]

yeah I'm pretty positive it won't happen again...I'm so shocked it happened in the first place, it was completely out of character for him.  He was a lot of things, but cheater -- never in a million years did I think...he is so old fashion in his values.  My sister told me to leave him and I deserve better but I love him so much -- things are still going well and it's been over a week.  We used to fight 75% of the time and we haven't gotten in an argument yet.  I mean I know arguing can be healthy but maybe 5% instead of 75% and over things that matter not "he said she said" fights...my whole family is just happier in general, including my son, 3 1/2, and daughter, 8 months.  He hasn't even really been hanging around his guy friends, which I told him, I don't want him to feel like a prisoner, I want him to go out with his friends -- I'm going to refer again to Sheri Meyers, she says that when this happens I will be more aware of warning signs instead of being so blind to what is happening.  I told him I don't have time to spy on him and I don't want to spy on him, I just want him to be faithful and he says it won't happen again.

Hey you are a strong person for doing that and I know. I'm going through the same thing right now and I'm slowly starting to accept that fact and we're working it out. All I can say to you is be happy in your decision and Don't regret it.... If he makes you happy then I'm happy for you girlie.....

[BK_Adores_Chase]

so things for us are kind of back to how they were before...except now when he goes out with his friends it reminds me that I better work hard on the relationship and not slip back into my old ways.  I don't know how to tell if he will never cheat again, what if he does and I never find out...life is crazy...

[BK_Adores_Chase]

okay, so i'm having a hard time trusting him...any tips?

[devideddi]

I wish many blessings for the next and new half of your marriage.  No one can say what they would do until they have to walk in your shoes themselves.  I have to say don't be naive about it in the future. Don't let him walk on you and I'm sure that's not gonna be the case.  Its just that you deserve the best.  Don't for a second believe anything different.  With love, best of wishes for you!

[Michplummer]

 Hope things out. Wish you the best. Just as long as  you are happy that's all the matters. 

[dreamyxo]

okay, so i'm having a hard time trusting him...any tips?

Let it go.  You decided to take him back and start again so don't go back now with the I can't trust you because of what happened in the past now. 

[ninajay]

I'm glad you two could work it out, and I hope I doesn't happen again. Good luck

[veronica773]

I really think both of you should go to a marriage counselor  to help you deal with it.  Its wonderful you are giving him a second chance.   I hope it works out for you. Best of luck. Take care of yourself.