Unemployed

[tashamjoy]

SO my mom has been unemployed for over a year and i am getting really worried she is going to loose the house soon just not sure what to do =( any advice ?

[samrhett2]

Well, you asked, so I will tell you that I would pray.  Having said that, I think that you can try to be as supportive as possible.  I am sure your mom is under a ton of stress, so help out as much as you can.  Try to show love and kindness.  Many people are going through this, and I don't know when it will ease up.  I would also talk to your mom about your fears.  As a family you will get through it.  My uncle lost his house a few years ago.  He declared bankruptcy.  At the time he was devastated, but now he is happy and care free.  The situation was not his fault and now he can afford to live without bill collectors breathing down his neck.  He rents a small apartment, was able to keep his older car and feels much better about life now.

[eliyoung]

praying will help her and guide her to the next career. she just need to make shure she up everyday looking for employment. don't let a day go by where you havent done something wether it be serching up potentals or posting her resume to job sites.

[loriecampbell]

  Your mother's not alone. There are many going through this...believe me. Pray. And, show her empathy and help her out. Please understand that this is not the end but look at it as a new beginning and don't let stress be a culprit. My attitude is grateful for having a roof over my head and food.

[diala84]

I'm not sure how old you are but if you are of age to get a job maybe you want to help ease the strain and try and find a job or ask around your neighborhood for odd jobs to do (baby sitting, mowing lawns, raking leaves, house cleaning, etc..). Are there any extra expenses because of you such as (car insurance, gas money, lunch money, etc..) you may be able to ease this with a job or if you find ways to lessen the expense such as choosing not to drive a car and take a bus instead, packing a lunch from home, etc...

If you can't help financially you can at least pick up the slack on some choirs and offer to make dinner on some nights. If she pays you for doing choirs offer that she doesn't have to pay for you to do choirs. If you have some old clothes or items you don't want anymore offer to sell them on craigslist or Ebay to make a little extra money. Decide to make homemade gifts (food, soaps, special card, crafts, etc..) this year for the holidays instead of expensive gifts.

I'm sure there are other great tips but the best thing you can do is just help your mom to be less stressed so that she has an easier time doing the things she needs to do to get work. Stress and depression are serious threats to finding a job and may hinder her ability to do so. If she is depressed all the time maybe a anti-depressant would help her get through this tough time if she has some medical coverage to pay for it.   

[tashamjoy]

I am 20 and I do have a job and I try to give her money but she will not take it, I try to do things like buy groceries so its not giving her money that she does not want but at least she is not having to spend as much of hers but i am a poor college student i can only help so much =( and its hard