Unappreciated?

[annettefayeroach]

My ex told me that one time, so I with help from the internet  wrote down  how much it would cost him to  have some one come in and clean the house, cook for him, baby sit, daycare,wash his clothes, go out and buy the groceries  and then put them away, etc.  He never said anything again.  But then we only made it 15 years too.

[sherryinutah]

When I was a "stay at home" mom I felt the same way.  I think it has something to do with taking people for granted.  Some guys feel the same way when they work hard to support a family and the money is spent on family necessities.

Unfortunately, a mom isn't able to give 2 weeks notice.  One thing she can do is schedule a vacation.  Take a break from your job as mom and maybe when you return home you'll experience everyone being happy to see you.

Good luck!

[sarabtrayior]

I've been married almost 32 years, our kid is grown and I'm disabled... unfortunately, my worth is not appreciated because I do not bring in a huge income and I have to get used to that, but I do enter PCH every day and I could be a winner there too.... Good luck and you have to feel important to yourself and you have to appreciate yourself!!! 

[mrisha]

Most of the time the working spouse forget how hard it is staying home and taking care of the kids and everything to do with the house.  You must sit down and talk to your spouse to tell them how you feel and what you want and need.  Some just need reminding but there are others who really don't care.

[ShadeTree]

I don't have kids, but I do maintain a house in which three other adults reside. Not one of them bothers to do anything to help out. I have to keep things clean and in order, because if I don't the place would be a disgusting wreck. It's pathetic, three grown adults that don't do anything but sit on their butts. I'm the one who cooks a meal for everyone, serves it, and cleans up afterward without so much as a "thanks". I do the cleaning, and I'm the least messy person in the house. I'm also the youngest person here, and I get landed with all the responsibility. It's completely unfair. No one ever appreciates anything I do or try to do for them, and I'm not just talking about the people I live with. Is it really that difficult to say "thank you" or "thanks" AND mean it?

[erinelise2]

It's tough and not likely to get much better.  I've been a SAHM for years and gone through the same thing. The person who works outside the home also feels unappreciated.  I once told my husband that I really appreciated everything he did for family and the work he did to take care of us.  A few days later he said how much that had meant to him and how that was the first time I had ever said that.  I can't tell you how hard I had to bite my tongue and not say "No, that was just the first time you ever really heard me."  I had been making a conscious effort for several months to say things like that. Not that I feel like I was ever unappreciative of him before.

I believe what you put out, whether it's postive or negative, can affect what you get back.  At the same time, if it's not in his nature to be demonstrative and offer praise, that won't change no matter how much praise you offer.  You know what you do is important and difficult.

[vicogden]

I know being a mom is the hardest job in the world.  I think you should sit down with your other half and make sure he understands how hard you work and how important your job is... good luck Kendra...