Online Love

[SmartyTru]

Do you believe in Online Love and have you ever had an online relationship? I did and we have been together since 1998

[mimimarlene]

Yes, I do. I met my guy on an online dating service and we have been together 6 years. You do meet some real clunkers, but if you are smart, meet them in common places without giving them your phone number or address, you can weed them out. I was always nice to them and when I got home wrote an email thanking them and wishing good luck on their search, but we did not have enough in common to continue that way they would not bug you anymore

[vicogden]

I heard that about 1 in 5 relationships start online now.  And to think I grew up without a computer... maybe that's why I didn't date much in school huh?  And, although I have been married a couple of times, lived with a few people, and have lots of girlfriends, I've still never met anyone online.  (Maybe that's why I have a lot of ex'es and formers huh?)... Maybe I should give it a shot.  Of course, my fiance would remove a body part or 2 if she caught me...

[SmartyTru]

Yes, I do. I met my guy on an online dating service and we have been together 6 years. You do meet some real clunkers, but if you are smart, meet them in common places without giving them your phone number or address, you can weed them out. I was always nice to them and when I got home wrote an email thanking them and wishing good luck on their search, but we did not have enough in common to continue that way they would not bug you anymore

Great Reply thanks mimi

[sarabtrayior]

NO... I've an on offline love for more than 30 years an it has worked out just fine...

[Valerie1979]

online dating is definately the "new" thing (maybe for the last decade already)
my husband and I met online, I was not a "bar scene" kinda girl so I online dated a lot I guess.
My husband and I will celebrate our 5th anniversary next week and we dated for nearly 2 years before that so I know it can work.

I agree with previous post though -- you can meet a lot of "clunkers" and you have to be cautious/smart about what you share, how you share information and where you meet, etc.  BUT I am a true believer that you can meet "clunkers" anywhere--- anyone can lie about who they are or what they want - even if you meet them at the bar. 

[acurtsinger2]

no way

[jordandog]

I don't have a closed mind, I am not an unattractive woman, and I am certainly NOT old fashioned in my thinking at all. That being said, the idea of finding love via my computer just jeeves me out. No mattter how desperate I might become, which I don't see ever happening, the last thing I would think of for finding a partner is searching for one in cyberworld. I love technology, but this is a part of it that really bothers me. Has this world really become that impersonal? Sad state of affairs - no pun intended.

[jcribb16]

I don't have a closed mind, I am not an unattractive woman, and I am certainly NOT old fashioned in my thinking at all. That being said, the idea of finding love via my computer just jeeves me out. No mattter how desperate I might become, which I don't see ever happening, the last thing I would think of for finding a partner is searching for one in cyberworld. I love technology, but this is a part of it that really bothers me. Has this world really become that impersonal? Sad state of affairs - no pun intended.

I agree with this.  One of my aunts met and dated a man from online.  There were some strange things that happened - she said she will never do that again.  We also teach our kids and teens not to do it because you don't know what could happen, yet some adults do it.  A friend of mine in Alaska, married with 3 children, up and left her family for some man in Holland.  After several months with this man, no one has ever heard from her again.  That's a little too weird for me.  I have heard it has worked for some people, though.  I just don't trust it.  Great question, by the way!!

[wittylance]

I agree you can meet someone online and start a relationship.  But to really love someone you have to get to know them personally and in person.

[cloudsoup]

my online love and i are heading toward
10 years together. it's kind of hard to believe.
we often forget we met online! we were lucky
to have only been one state apart.

we met back when we were 16 &17 (online dating
hadn't really boomed yet in 2002) and our
parents were pretty involved by the time we
talked about meeting up.

[Valerie1979]

if you meet online- eventually you have to take it offline and date as if you met by some other means
my hubby and i did not chat/email for long and once we met we had  a very old-fashioned kind of dating

[joseadam]

I have heard of some on-line relationships working out, but personally I wouldn't do it.  There is to many crazy people in this world to be meeting strangers on-line.  They take something that is suppose to help people, and use it for their own twisted agenda.  I think if you are going to date someone you met on-line, just be safe, and be smart.  Don't meet for the first time at your house, as a matter of fact, don't even tell them where you live.  Also, tell your family and friends about the meeting as far as where you are going, what time you should be back, and what the person's name is.  You can also call them if you and your date decide to go somewhere else or if you are going to be late coming home.  Drive separately! When you leave to go home, drive around well lit streets and busy places for a little bit to make sure you are not being followed home.  I know this might sound paranoid and crazy, but it is better to be overly cautious and stay alive than to be trusting and dead!

[keissy2000]

hey good job on the long time love fund on the internet. i used to know someone off the net for years until i lost contact and never found him again. and another i kept in touch with but found out he wasnt as good looking as i thought but he was nice so we continued being friends. he wanted to date me but i didnt find him attractive so i didnt date him but my friends did.

[SmartyTru]

online dating is definately the "new" thing (maybe for the last decade already)
my husband and I met online, I was not a "bar scene" kinda girl so I online dated a lot I guess.
My husband and I will celebrate our 5th anniversary next week and we dated for nearly 2 years before that so I know it can work.

I agree with previous post though -- you can meet a lot of "clunkers" and you have to be cautious/smart about what you share, how you share information and where you meet, etc.  BUT I am a true believer that you can meet "clunkers" anywhere--- anyone can lie about who they are or what they want - even if you meet them at the bar. 

Congratulations!! And Happy Anniversary