Living...with depression

[rrichey143]

How do you handle the ups and down...mood swings, just not wanting to get out of bed.  And when you finally realize why you are depressed...how do you move 750 miles back to where you belong when you are broke?

[noirlupe]

I live with depression daily.  I wake up and determine that it will not rule my life.  As for going home, search for ways to get the help you need to go home.  There are people out there who love to help people and I am sure if you search someone will be able to help you. 

[lylah01]

How do you handle the ups and down...mood swings, just not wanting to get out of bed.  And when you finally realize why you are depressed...how do you move 750 miles back to where you belong when you are broke?

Ups and downs are going to come and go... You have to lift yourself up or even allow someone to help you get lifted. Baby if I let all of the bad things that ever happened to me get me all depressed, I probably wouldn't even be here today. Believe me, I feel where you're coming from but you have to get up, get moving and get it. It's not always just gonna come to you... Well, keep ya head up hope everything gets better for you.

[Abrupt]

How do you handle the ups and down...mood swings, just not wanting to get out of bed.  And when you finally realize why you are depressed...how do you move 750 miles back to where you belong when you are broke?

I always actively fight back and laugh at adversity when it comes my way.  It isn't something that is always easy and especially initially, but after some practice it becomes well possible.  Don't entertain self-pity or worry or fear or doubt.  You must resist them with all your might (one reason the laughing is helpful here).  Sometimes you can picture yourself as a comedy and you the butt of the joke but also the hero to root for.  It is a difficult exercise but you can actively cheer for yourself as a spectator and it will transfer to you as a the actor.

If you are by yourself and feel the need to be somewhere and don't have a way...you walk.  If you cannot carry all your possessions you sell what you can.  Travel light and at a steady and manageable pace.  The walk will clear your head and strengthen your determination and reinforce your confidence in your ability to accomplish things you don't consider yourself capable of.  750 miles on foot would likely take you two weeks but it is something you can do if you choose.  You will need provision but to carry enough will make the journey that much more difficult so keep 2 days worth on you just for emergency and manage the rest by whatever means you determine reasonable.  While it is somewhat dangerous to travel alone on foot, it is more dangerous to entertain depression...it is also hard to be depressed while moving forward towards a goal with a reachable end and measurable progress so the journey fights the depression.  Consider the reward for doing this is that in three weeks you will be where you wanted to be with renewed confidence and the realization that you have the mind to accomplish what you need regardless of the challenge.  Such a lesson cannot be taught or experienced through another's revelations but only provided by oneself and such is actually an opportunity in disguise.

Take note, what I suggest may not be for you and I am sure some would consider it a foolish choice.  It is what I would do (and have done) in a similar situation.  Our lineage had this grit and it exists within us still and is just hidden by the active disbelief in our capabilities and the societal repetition that we are somehow unable to manage ourselves in the simplest of matters.

[Graeth]

I've had to bury 14 of my friends before I was old enough to vote.
I've had to bury my fiance before I was old enough to drink.
It may sound young to people, butu keep in mind I knew these people for larger portions of my life than most others will know their friends or spouses.
I have to say that its definitely not easy, especially when you have no friends left or family to draw upon.

I just try to keep being the person that attracted them to me in the first place.

[gaylasue]

I like with a major depressed person and I know first-hand how difficult that makes life.

[SmartyTru]

How do you handle the ups and down...mood swings, just not wanting to get out of bed.  And when you finally realize why you are depressed...how do you move 750 miles back to where you belong when you are broke?

Ups and downs are going to come and go... You have to lift yourself up or even allow someone to help you get lifted. Baby if I let all of the bad things that ever happened to me get me all depressed, I probably wouldn't even be here today. Believe me, I feel where you're coming from but you have to get up, get moving and get it. It's not always just gonna come to you... Well, keep ya head up hope everything gets better for you.

Absolutely love this response (the previous one)We all get depressed from time to time some more than others believe me I have been diagnosed with depression that has lasted over a year at this point I agree with lyla whole heartedly even if you have to force yourself to get up and moving do it.
I think you will find exercise very helpful even if it is just going for walks 2ndly there must be a reason you moved in the first place   and before making any decisions about moving back somewhere I would really look at if that is truly the best thing or you just "think" it will solve everything whatever your choice I wish you luck

[ptfunds]

First I think it is very courageous for you to post here.  Good for you.  Second, several people have posted wonderful advice in suggesting that you get up and get moving around.  It's a hard thing to do some days.  You just get up and put one foot in front of the other. If getting back home is important to you, you will figure it out.  Have faith and remember it will not always feel the way it feels today. 

[batmobile]

How do you handle the ups and down...mood swings, just not wanting to get out of bed.  And when you finally realize why you are depressed...how do you move 750 miles back to where you belong when you are broke?

honey, i have borderline personality disorder its hell! take it day by day thats all u can do or ur problems can consume u.

[nicalake]

My pesonal biggest defeat with depression is Knowing Im not alone-Im not the only 1with this issue HELL Im not the only1 with alot of "THIS" issue
Take the bad days with the good 1s.. take medication accordingly(BIG FACTOR) avoid the pitfalls..
those pre warning signs--take heed and that S**t under control--

[champak97]

Living with depression is hard, but everything is a mind game. Instead of thinking about all the bad things that happened to you, focus on atleast one good thing that has happened to you, the outcome, and relive those memories. I have come to appreciate all the simple joys of life, only because of my worst days. Many kids take their parents for granted, but when I lost both parents within a single year, then my job, and had a baby and had no family or friends nearby, the only thing that kept me going was my baby. Life is difficult sometimes, unfair to many, so what, you just have to think about the blessings in your life and hope for the best. That is my two cents or whatever it is worth.

[ashleyxatrocity]

How do you handle the ups and down...mood swings, just not wanting to get out of bed.  And when you finally realize why you are depressed...how do you move 750 miles back to where you belong when you are broke?

I take everything 1 day at a time because I don't know how I'll feel when I wake up. I don't really have "mood swings" (that seems more like bipolarity), but when I get into one of my "bummers" as I call them, I do not allow the emotions to suck me in. I find something that makes me happy and gives my life meaning and do my best to immerse myself into that until the feeling goes away. I refuse to be medicated because I've had negative side effects from most medications (except for 1 that my insurance no longer covers). I know that it can be hard, but the best thing that you can do is fight it. I look at my depression as something that's trying to hold me back from my full potential and I simply will NOT allow that, so I strike it out. Its worked for me these last 10 years. You just have to be strong and remember: YOU have depression...depression doesn't have YOU! 

[africanclaudie]

My son once told me that the best thing about being depressed is the fact that you KNOW you WILL climb out of the black pit sometime and that was something he looked forward to. My heart goes out to you as I have been there. I know you'll find your way back, so here's giving you the thumbs up!

[ashleyxatrocity]

My son once told me that the best thing about being depressed is the fact that you KNOW you WILL climb out of the black pit sometime and that was something he looked forward to.

That's a beautiful way to look at it. Your son is very positive which is GREAT for someone suffering with depression.

[africanclaudie]

Thanks for that....his outlook has helped me through many a time when the black dog came to visit.