OMG! Right Now I Don`t Know Why I Am Married

[jamieknupp]

My husband is the most hateful *bleep* i have ever run across!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!GOD Please Give Me Strength!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oh lord, dont pay for strength or he'll surely test it! lol. hope everything is ok

[hensleyll]

You re so not kidding wednesday was my hawdest day yet just didnt know if my marraige was going to last one more day! but here it is sunday and we had awesome weekend and praying for many more! Thanks for all the support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[hensleyll]

ANOTHER DOWN DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOT GOING TO COMPLAIN IT COULD BE WORSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I KNOW THIS NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[sgluckadoo]

I sooooooo know this feeling!

[hensleyll]

So Nice To Know I`m Not The Only One Out Here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[L4v4]

Quite interesting, I love the diversity of these topics. And for your marriage, if you love him stay, if you don't; leave.

[inertia4]

I used to think the same thing. My ex wife is a sneaky mean nasty and evil human being. I tried for 17 years with her. Then she went and turned it on me and she left me! What a bit@h.

[Lindaroof]

Sounds like he has some pretty deep issues, is he in counsleing? What about you, it might do you good to go on your own if he won't go with you, it just may open up a whole new world for you both, give it a try before rushing into a divorce and once you know you have done all you can then  make that decision. Good Luck to you both.

[poppy1]

Talk about your lives together.  Tell him what you need and want in a marriage, ask the same of him.  You two may just not be a good match for each other.  Don't waste time though, there is someone for everyone! 

[hensleyll]

It is just so damn confusing one day it`s gold the next it is hell! Feel like i live in a roller coaster!

[lylah01]

My husband is the most hateful *bleep* i have ever run across!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!GOD Please Give Me Strength!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I feel you... Been married for the past nine years, separated for the past two though.  Best two years of my life! Not downing marraige or anything, maybe its just not for me. If he is hateful though I recommend you get out. If I could afford it, would be done all the way... long time ago.

[laine39]

I do think we all sometimes wonder why we married someone at one time or another when things are rough. Right now you sound like you are on the rollercoaster ride with him. You can't change a person. They have to want to change themselves. I have stayed with my husband almost 18 years and endured a lot of emotional and verbal abuse thru all the years. A year ago I filed for divorce as hard as it was. I had no contact with my husband for several months during the legal seperation, and then we started seeing each other again. Of course he promised me everything under the sun, and said he felt like he would die without me. The time we spent together again was like falling in love all over again. I spent thousands on an attorney, and he sweet talked me enough to take him back.  I dropped the divorce the day it was going to trial. Now he is right back to the same person he was. People's true colors always come back. He is the way he is because I have allowed him to be this way, by accepting the way he treats me. Everyday is a freaking rollercoaster ride again, and strangely I still  love him, but I know he will never change, and he knows how to get the best of me. It's not worth giving up yourself to stay with someone - love or not. Maybe we think we love the person and try to give it our all, but maybe after so many years we are just to damn afraid to start over or be alone, especially when our self-esteem has been taken. I wish you the best and I hope that you make a better decision than I did.  My heart goes out to you....I know your pain all to well.

[hensleyll]

Well thanks sure sounds like you do know where im coming from.But like i always say i chose to live it,doesnt mean i like it! But she i do love him and try to accept that he depressed because he disabled! Swears this time he will be better! We Will See!

[sherryinutah]

My Biggest problem about leaving is he is going thru depression and is disabled ,can`t work and seeking medical treatment . He asked me before starting treatment if i would not leave him if he gets disabled. However i did tell him i will not stay if he doesnt stop being so mean and vindictive.He is the only one in the house who dont work he sits on couch all day thinking of things to pick a fight about with me or one of our kids,they are all over 20 .It`s like he is jealous or something!

He sounds like a guy with very low self-esteem issues and he might be in the process of subconsciously sabotaging the marriage.  Take action and take good care of yourself!

[africanclaudie]

Love is sometimes not enough....as hard as it is, push emotions aside and think of yourself and your own future. I know it sounds terrible, especially when one loves another, but picture yourself in 5/10 years' time with the same problems as now. I wish you much wisdom in your decision. :-