color for wedding schemes

[MichelleHW101]

What book did brides get the idea that their bride’s maids would look good in whatever color they look good in?  Everyone has different skin tones and hair and I color that not everyone is going to look good in the same colors.  My sister-in-law has red hair and freckles so she looked good in the blood red dress.  But it was her wedding so she was wearing white.  I have pale skin with dark hair and eyes so all you say was that red dress.  Her best friend Diane has dark hair and eyes like me but is arab so she has that dark olive skin and looked aweful in the red.  Her other best friend Kristen is out of florida and had too tan a skin to look good in that red.  Her other friend Becka also had skin too tan to pull off that red.  Only one pulled off the red and that was my other sister-in-law but she was black.  I think if one is going to get a bunch of girls together to wear a dress it should be in a color all of them can agree on to wear.  Yes that is harder but at least it would be in a color that they all could pull off not just one girl and the bride.

[Annella]

The wedding party and the colors are decided by the Bride. It's HER day after all. If you were picked for a bridesmaid and you didn't like the color of the dress, you could have declined to be her attendant. That would have been a petty reason to decline, but after all, YOU must look good on that special day right?  How dare the Bride pick a color that doesn't compliment your skin tone for......again........HER wedding. After all the things she must get organized and get completed for that day, your skin tone is not the highest priority on her list. To be picked for an attendant of the Bride is an honor as she looks to you as a confidant and friend, or family. Your job is to help her before, and on that day, to bring about a day of supreme happiness for HER that she can remember for the rest of her life. Not complain because you don't look as ravishing in your dress as you would like.

[aggie49]

i feel like the bride and the bridesmaids should discuss it because yes it's the brides day but you don't want to make the brides maids unhappy either

[Annella]

i feel like the bride and the bridesmaids should discuss it because yes it's the brides day but you don't want to make the brides maids unhappy either

Sorry, but the bridesmaids are not getting married and it is not their day. Many young women I know have a hard time even picking their attendants from their many female friends. I've planned many a wedding in my time. If the Bride is paying for the Bridesmaids dresses, then she has the say what color and style they are. It's the Bridesmaids option to say no and opt out of the wedding party, not push the Bride to make them happy with what they are wearing on HER day (selfish attitude). If they are required to pay for their own dresses (and I don't know one Bride who has made such a request in all of my 60 years), then they could discuss it. If the Bride is paying for everything and wants pea green with purple polka dot dresses for her bridesmaids, then so be it. If the Bridesmaids are unhappy, then why stay in the wedding party? Nobody is required to be in the wedding party just because they are asked. They have the option of saying no so she can choose someone else, instead of going through with it and then complaining about it behind the Brides back on a public forum. Not cool....IMHO.