why is it hard to find a good men or women

[drandall]

There are good men and women out there. But so many have been deeply hurt and just are not that easy to get to. But if you are fortunate to be the one to get through that wall, than you're usually in for a treat.

[mom2taz]

Too many people just don't understand the issues of "give and take"...too many are all about "take" and not so much about "give"...and the word "commitment" just is in fewer and fewer people's vocabulary these days.
It's become an "it's all about me" generation...

[kodomfulmanar]

you're not looking in the right places maybe? or maybe everyone thinks like you (that there are no good men or women), so the ones that really are 'good' at "hiding" just an idea

[Flackle]

A lot of people seem to have developed some sort of high expectation from other people. This is part in due to the fact that society preaches high-self esteem attempting to make everyone feel like their #1. We live in a selfish, collectivist world where the traits and achievements of the individual are ignored and only the end result of something is important (most technology is seen this way by those who use it) and the traits and achievements of many individuals are ignored in favor of one person (such in the case of most celebrities). When dating, expect lots of people with high expectations.

These are of course highly generalized statements. With enough luck you'll fine someone who cares about something more important.

[angelheartsong]

  :heart:Hmmm I don't know the Answer to this Question... & Quite Frankly 10 yrs Ago I prob. would have agreed full heartedly with you, Given my Track record with Bad relationships 1 after another lol... But I met my (COMMON-Law) Hubby at a homeless shelter (after forcefully leaving my VERY ABUSIVE EX)!  & I Gotta tell Ya I have Never been Loved like this before!!!  & Believe me Hun The LAST Thing in the world i was looking for was a soulmate lol But thats what i got!.... & it hasn't been all Peaches & Creme'BruLe lol. By Any Means... We have been Homeless, lived wit inlaws, lived wit weird people, dealt wit jail time, cheating,(In the Way Early Years) Not 2 mention The Fights that normal couples have lol.... & we have had to deal wit outsiders & naysayers! We still Go Through ALOT!!!.... But Just Know If YOUR HEART & EYES ARE OPEN, YOUR SOUL FULL.... & U ARE HOPEFULL TO THE FUTURE GREAT LOVES ARE OUT THERE FOR US ALL....... THERE IS A SPECIAL SOME1 FOR EVERY 1 PERSON... I hope this Helps

[sarabtrayior]

Good people, both men and women are everywhere, you just have to keep an open mind...my daughter found a good man who is living outside (she is too) and now they'll live outside together...

[mary_k]

I'm still looking for one