why is it hard to find a good men or women

[geniseboswell]

is there someone out there who know how to love or is everyone full of hate

[alwaysinstyle]

 :crybaby2:world is really full of hate .People don't fight for their feelings,they give up easily,
there is a lot of divorces,pain,sadness.
But is only depends on us,how relationship could work and be.
We can blame yourself ONLY for the "bad"things.
And what do you mean by "GOOD MEN OR WOMAN'?? :-

[JoselinTorres]

I have met guys that seem genuinly nice but there is either no chemistry or I just prefer to have them a friend.

[dreamyxo]

Look at yourself.  Are you a good man or woman?  No one is perfect sure but like attracts like. 

[JaiStarr]

Everybody seems so suckish b/c they've been traumatized from their teen/puppy love years [or lack of love] and think everybody will hurt them or they're just that weak/hateful like alwaysinstyle said one 'good' partner may not be considered 'good' to another...

[tzs]

It's really not hard to find. When you force yourself to look for that special someone, the results end up in rushed relationships and  bad break ups. But, if you take the time out to find out who YOU are as an individual, and stop looking so hard for love, It just hits you out of nowhere!

Men and women seem to think if a relationship that he, or she initiated fails, that it is automatically "the other persons faults" that screwed things up. Thats simply not true. Knowing your own faults and flaws will better help you to understand and identify with others faults and flaws. Having empathy, understanding each ones plight through life, and making eachother feel better about it leads to good relationships. That way, you both look at eachother and say "Its okay to be that way" and "we are in this for the long term, no matter what".

You have to become a comfortable individual with your own Identity before you become a couple. If you don't know yourself first~then what's the point? Its a delicate balance, but it can be done.

[tracycurtis289]

I don't know why it's so hard to find a good person. It seems like everyone is just looking for one thing, and nobody wants to actually share a life, or be faithful anymore. I have given up on the dating scene, because I have found contentment in other areas of my life. I hope my daughters have some luck when they hit the dating scene. 

[tigerscene]

most people dont know what they like to have or what they are looking for is hard to fine but eather just dont now what they had till they lost it and cannt fne a nother one better then them

[kords21]

I think a big problem in both genders is that people aren't real anymore. For the most part, they live their lives based on what the TV tells them. They believe everything it tells them to beleive, they dress/shop/eat what have you based on what the TV tells them to do. I agree, people need to get back to who they are and not who TV/Society is telling them to be.

[gaylasue]

You must be looking in the wrong places.

[freepcmoney]

A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND----AND----A HARD MAN IS GOOD TO FIND !!

[thetop31]

if you want to find a good men/woman to love, first both of you need to conclude each other, some mistake, each other's temper, appetite, hobby....then you can have a peaceful and harmony life. if you think the man/woman is hard or not good enough that means you want too much from him/her.

[Lusie]

Good men are out there. I lucked up and one is my best friend. He treats his girl like a princess {I think he over does it and she abuses it, but hey it is their life.}. When he and I were room mates he would hardly ever let me pay for anything. Very much the gentleman in all senses. I can always find the great guys but they usually are no more than friends with me lol

[Getinonthis]

There are good men and women out there but find one depends on the person who's looking. Most of the times we settle for less in or rush for companionship, set goals that are too high, and sometimes the problem is us. Start being the good man or woman desire to see and you'll find what you're looking for. 

[golotomer]

:crybaby2:world is really full of hate .People don't fight for their feelings,they give up easily,
there is a lot of divorces,pain,sadness.
But is only depends on us,how relationship could work and be.
We can blame yourself ONLY for the "bad"things.
And what do you mean by "GOOD MEN OR WOMAN'?? :-

Not necessarily true.  I love someone that everyone in my life tells me I should not love.  We all feel for the one we love in ways that man cannot understand.  Love to me is making a commitment to someone that you fall in love with and sticking by that decision ...unless they betray, condem or do not stand up to their inital vows in some manner.