you are responsible for your own life

[noirlupe]

Have you read the book The Secret.  We draw whatever happens to us by our thoughts,  what we think manifests itself in our lives.  I have found that to be true in my life.  So that makes us solely responsible for what happens we thought it and so it is.

[thomassina]

Well I know the millions of kids who are abducted every year didn't think "Oh hey I think I'll be abducted today!" And the secret is there are situations we can't avoid and you maybe the only hero in someone's life. Did you watch the Diane Sawyer's interview with Jaycee Duggard? Maybe you should read her book.

[workin4alivin]

i agree with mostly everything that has been said. 

i spent a lot of time on that little sentence, i was gona go into my life, my kids life, etc ... but the bottom line is we are all responsible for our own life.  tough love for the kids, at a certain point you have to kick 'em out like the mother bird does.  if they have to come home they have to PAY not live off the parents.  geeze, so many words ... i'm not gona bore ya'll with the details. 

[lucky382001]

That's true in some sense but we are also our brother's keeper. We should lend a hand when it's needed and not just turn away when someone is in trouble We need to have a heart!

Yes, but in the same sense we have to be careful that we don't become someone's crutch. The saying about giving a man a fish feeds him for one day but teach a man to fish feeds him forever (or something like that lol) comes to mind. Besides what happens to our loved ones when we die and they suddenly have to help themselves? I'd bet they won't think on us too kindly if we don't teach them how to live so they have more choices if nothing else.

[thomassina]

I know that in Proverbs 14:31 it says that "He who oppresses the poor shows contempt for their Maker, but he who is kind to the needy honors God." That's what I'm all about. You need to help the needy or you yourself will be needy. You always reap what you sow!  Can I get a witness?!

[debranb]

I agree that we have to help each other at times and I also think that when you help others you reap unexpected benefits.  Over the years, my husband and I have been foster parents to several children, we opened our doors and our hearts to those less fortunate.  We also helped many of our family members when they needed it, giving them a place to live or money when they were a little short.  In the past two years, circumstances have changed and it is my husband and I who need help now.   We have found that many of the same people who we helped years ago are now helping us out.  When we helped them ,we had no idea that one day we would be the ones who would need help, but we have found them to be generous and helpful.  You never know what life is going to "dish" out and sometimes we all need a little help.

[jearen]

I do agree with you that everyone is responsible for their life and can make their own choices healthy, or not. But some people are not as strong when it comes to addictions and this may be from how they were brought up in the world and the values they were taught. And you know now days younger people are influenced with drugs and alcohol earlier in life, and if the parents don't have open conversations with them, it will be harder for them to not become addicted later on in life. My parents both smoke and drank, so I started at a young age. But through life I have made better choices and was able to quit these habits. I will be the first to admit this was one of my hardest challenges. I cannot treat any one differently because of what they do ..because I have not walked in their shoes.

[cubarican210]

alwaysinstyle I agree with what you said. Everyone is responsible for what goes on in their lives. Everyone has the power to make their life better. I'm tired of people blaming someone else for their misfortune. Where I'm from I hear that a lot. It's always because of you I wasn't able to finish college. Because of you I got fired from my job. Because because because. Those are all just excuses. People need to wake up and smell the coffee and basically grow up.

[wittylance]

I am just starting to get on my own I finished high school, moved out for about 8 months and decided to go back home it benefits me as well as my mother because I work full time and have a car she doesn't work because she is disabled and doesn't have a car and needs rides to the doctors and stuff.  I to believe we make our life what it is.  The desicions we make influence how things turn out later for instance if you get in trouble with the police well than it affects your life later down the road and than you regret it.  but you did it to your self, so even though I have not been out on my own very long my mother taught me to be responsible for my own actions and don't try to make excusses or blame others because you made the decision.

[charmaine56]

 
actually getting past the victim and blaming something for everything is a spiritual phase. an acknowledgement to get up and ove it.

and then you move to even more harder lesson.

getting over co dependancy, getting to unconditional love, learning unity, then finding out what that higher power really is and you find out Moses was right. I am or Yaweh is real.

[thomassina]

I help whoever I can when I can. In the lives we help, we may just be helping an angel. There's a true story about a girl who was contemplating suicide when she got home from school because she didn't think anyone cared. That morning when she got to school her teacher pat her on the shoulder and complemented her on her school work, she felt special and she didn't kill herself. That teacher unknowingly saved that girl's life. That teacher wasn' t going around saying " You are responsible for your own life!" I've heard of a pack of wolves huddling around a young boy who got lost in a snow storm, and by those wolves huddling together around that young boy, they kept him warm until help came. These wolves didn't care about whose life it was they saw a need and came to the rescue, don't tell me that these animals are now having more sense than humans who don't want to help their own. What has this world come to? I guess we need to give it to the wolves! 

[chii2]

I agree with what this topic says because for me whose still in highschool, I know for a fact that what you do right now is your own fault and responsibility cuz seriously your the one making decisions in what you do so it pisses me fof when I hear people blame others when their the ones who caused it themselves. Its just stupid that they use someone else as their scapegoat so they wouldnt feel bad about themselves.

[alwaysinstyle]

see?
that easy and we talk about it a lot!

[xavvier77]

i agree

[superteacher]

I have read that book as well and I agree a lot what the book says about the mirocals in life. Life is such a funny little game and everyone is trying to win. But for sure you are responsible for your own life.