Is it worth helping those friends who never helped you !!

[sh1980]

Is it worth helping to those friends who never asked you when you are in need ..should we help them again and again?

[dell9031]

You should try it once and see.  Seems you have set a "rule" that isn't friendly at all.
Friends help without asking in return.  Are you a good friend?  Maybe o no one helps you because they know you will expect something from them in return.  That is not friendship.

[sh1980]

Nope I am good at friendship..I never expect anything from any of my friends but somebody all the time asking for favour and favour its like I am being used but once I was in need for help that good friend of mine never asked ...so I am not able to decide that its worth

[lacim123]

I don't think so, but i don't like to help others unless they really need it and know they will pay me back. i got burned one to any times. 

[DanielKorycki]

I don't mean to sound preachy, and I usually try to never tell people what they should or shouldn't do, but for me personally, I think the right thing is its own reward. If you're a Christian, Jesus says you will receive a reward in heaven. If you're Buddhist or Hindu, it will create positive karma. And if you're none of the above, you can still feel good about helping someone.

[gaylasue]

I try to help anyone I can regardless if they are a friend or a stranger.  I am blessed to live in an area that I don't have to fear strangers.  Besides, I have my CCDW Permit and utilize it faithfully.

[SherylsShado]

I have been helped by friends and strangers and I have helped both friends and strangers.  I don't keep a tally on who I help and whether or not they helped me, and the people I have helped usually weren't the people that helped me.  Help where it's needed just because you are able to help, not because you expect them to help you back.  Everyone needs help at sometime or another in life.

[diala84]

You have to decide what the friendship means to you. I had a friend that would talk for endless hours about her problems and constantly needed consoling. Eventually we drifted apart as friends because I tended to see more good in the world than bad and when bad things happen I don't like burdening others with my problems. It was draining to have her talk about her problems and I felt like a counselor all the time. That is not a true friendship. It can be easy to get sucked into a negative spiral and get dragged into all the problems of another person. You have to decide how you want to spend your time and who you want to spend it with. If you decide to keep the friendship and stay as involved be prepared for the effects otherwise limit your time with the person and have an atmosphere that prevents heavy conversation or group outings. Eventually you may start hearing less about the problems and actually have some fun.   

[Stealth3si]

Is it worth helping to those friends who never asked you when you are in need ..should we help them again and again?

If you care about them and can find your own way to "help" them without being used, feeling worthless or hurt or whatever, then yes. If either not, then leave them but still be friends.

[Cuppycake]

You should try it once and see.  Seems you have set a "rule" that isn't friendly at all.
Friends help without asking in return.  Are you a good friend?  Maybe o no one helps you because they know you will expect something from them in return.  That is not friendship.

Seems you didn't read the post. Here it is so you can actually read what they said this time :

Is it worth helping to those friends who never asked you when you are in need ..should we help them again and again?

[smy0850]

That depends, it's a very broad question does the "help" involve money? I am always willing to help some one but if my "help" is being taken for granted then I would not help them anymore. Another thing is I don't mix friends/family with money. If it involves money I flat out tell them no. Too many relationships have been broken over money. If it's something where my friend is in an abusive relationship and I help her to get out of it only to see she's right back w/the same guy then she's on her own. Or if you have no money and I help you and provide a place for you to stay only to see you bumming around my house, eating all the food, utlizing my electricity month after month w/not even an attempt to find a job then you have to get out.

[Cuppycake]

Is it worth helping to those friends who never asked you when you are in need ..should we help them again and again?

I think it depends on what it is you are helping them with. Is this something they can potentially figure out and do for themselves? Is helping them going to some how hurt you or make things harder for you ? If so maybe it isn't worth helping them. It could be that if you are always helping them they won't ever try to help themselves.

[dreamyxo]

You help someone because it's in your heart to do it not because you are expecting anything back.  Help shouldn't be a tit for tat relationship.  Don't expect anything and you won't be disappointed.  It's like giving gifts.  Don't give something just because you expect people to do the same because they might not.  Give a gift because you want to do it not out of obligation.  You will be blessed for giving/helping and that should be reward enough.

[dreamyxo]

Nope I am good at friendship..I never expect anything from any of my friends but somebody all the time asking for favour and favour its like I am being used but once I was in need for help that good friend of mine never asked ...so I am not able to decide that its worth

In that case you need to either learn to say no or learn to choose how you want to help if that's what you want to do but realize not everyone is going to think like you or do the things you think is right.  Did this friend know you needed help? Did you ask for help or did you assume they knew you were in need?  A friend in need is a friend indeed.  Maybe these "friends" who didn't help you when you needed don't value you as much as you think or want them to.

[jearen]

I guess it depends on if they are true friends, I have lent personal belongings and money to people and never saw it again. But a true friend it may take a while but they do return  or payback. I had to replace so much stuff over the years I seldom lend anything to people anymore unless I don't expect it back.