Having problem with my kids being around every girl my ex dates

[swv]

I have been separated for over 2 years.. My ex and I get along fine until a situation like this happens. Every girl he dates ends up around my kids, doing things with my kids when it is his weekend. I think this is fine if it is serious or have been dating for 4 or 5 months. He knows how I feel about this and continues to do it. I don't think it is right and just confuses and sets a bad example for my kids. And for the record, my kids have only been around 1 guy that I have been dating since September. Need some advice please.. do I continue to beat a dead horse by telling him how i feel or what???

[TaintedLust]

I have been separated for over 2 years.. My ex and I get along fine until a situation like this happens. Every girl he dates ends up around my kids, doing things with my kids when it is his weekend. I think this is fine if it is serious or have been dating for 4 or 5 months. He knows how I feel about this and continues to do it. I don't think it is right and just confuses and sets a bad example for my kids. And for the record, my kids have only been around 1 guy that I have been dating since September. Need some advice please.. do I continue to beat a dead horse by telling him how i feel or what???

Sounds to me like your ex doesn't care about the kids. If he did he'd make more of an effort. One day he'll regret It but It might be too late.



my boyfriend and I were just talking about that. We both agreed If It doesn't work with us that In the event he started dating someone else, I would know about It and the girl would have to understand that him and I have a child together and she will always come first. He made It a point of saying that If the female had a problem with us having a child together then she could hit the road. Him and I both want to get along and even continue to live together If we don't work out. We want our daughter to have the best life, no matter If we're together or not.

[lynnc35]

Do you have a custody agreement? If so maybe if your ex does not listen to reason, it is time to include this in it.

This is not good for the kids and your ex needs to pick the kids or all these different girls. He can see the girls when the kids are not around, if he wants to see his kids. If he finds one that becomes permanent like you, then you can change this, but if it is not exclusive then I would suggest that they do not visit when he has "dates".