SHOULD I BE A STAY AT HOME MOM

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I just graduated college, and I am walking this June, but now that I just had my second baby I'm thinking that I want to be a stay at home Mom.  But that means I wasted my time going to college because when they are grown up my degree will be junk.  Even when they go to school, I would like to keep the house clean and have dinner ready for everyone when they got home.  I want to be the one right there when they get hurt or need to come home sick or get off the bus from school.  Plus daycare costs a fortune!  I figure if I do my fusion cash I could get a tiny bit of extra money for pleasure, but besides that my fiance makes enough money for living.  Then again we wanted to get a mortgage and his friend could only get like a $50,000 loan with his job.  With both of us working we could get like 75,000.  And the kids would have more than enough of what they need if we both work.  I just can't decide!  I know one thing, I at least have to keep working until my debt is paid off, I'm not going to *bleep* that off on my fiance, but after that there's nothing really I NEED to work for.

[lannl]

If I were you I would be a stay at home mom, maybe when your children are older you could work part time. most important to be there for your kids then you will not have any regrets when your old. Your loved ones are more important than money.

[Tresbn00]

I was a stay at home dad until my youngest finished third grade...dinner on the table, laundry, all of the kids school plays, sports.  I wouldn't trade that for anything.  I am the voice of reason and the 'go-to' parent when they have questions.  I ran a few Real Estate Deals and Mortgages which contributed to the household income but we still accumulated a lot of debt.

[kiawana31]

IT WOULD BE WONDERFUL TO BE A STAY AT HOME MOTHER,BUT YOU ALSO NEED TO DO WHAT YOU GOT TO DO TO MAKE END MEET,CONSIDER WHAT ON YOUR MIND AND PRAY ABOUT IT!!!

[kay7]

Once you've paid off your loans and don't 'need' to work, you should be all means stay home.  You can always go back to work later but you can never redo your children's childhood & it will go a lot faster than you think.

[daughtytam84]

Well that really all depends on what you are getting your degree in and if your fiance  really makes enough money to really support you and the kids. My mom was a stay at home mom until I was about 16 and she went back to school and work. She always wanted to work though. Maybe you could get a part time job for a little extra money and you would still have enough time for cleaning and cooking and stuff. You don't wanna have any regrets.

[diala84]

I don't think it is an all or none decision. You could work part-time so you still have a lot of time with the kids or even start your own home business/work from home. There are lots of options.

[mishellyg]

I've been a stay at home Mom for 3 years. I love it. We can afford it. We'd be making good money if I worked too but it's worth it. I went to college too and have a few certificates. I can always go back to work and use them later.

[footemama]

I think the suggestion of staying at home while the kids are little and then working part-time while they are at school is a good compromise. What is your degree in?? Maybe it wouldn't be as bad as you think to wait and see what you want to do later. Like many people have already said you don't want to have any regrets! Staying at home with my son (as much as I can as a single parent LOL) has encouraged me to go in a new direction and soon I will be a work at home mom!! 

[maflawa]

In my opinion it's better to stay home in your situation. Since you have a college degree, you will get a job at a later time. Family is most important in our life. Career, money and others are only after family. To raise a good kid is to be with them most of times.

[manders8]

Getting a college degree is never a waste of time. Just because you might be unable to your degree at this point in your life because you will be a stay at home mom doesn't mean that you won't be able to use your degree in the future. Also you could look into ways on how you would be able to make money being a stay at home mom.

[TaintedLust]

My boyfriend and I agreed that one of us would stay home with our daughter. He works 3rd shift at Walmart and I stay home with her. Because she spent the first 5 months of her life In the hospital me staying home with her helped us bond. We didn't get that chance the first 5 months.

[mrstina08]

Ive been a stay at home mom for almost 6years now. I wouldnt trade that for nothing in the world. I love being there for my kids and hubby. I participate with their schooling. We still travel. 2010 My husband and i went to the Bahamas. This year we are going to Jacksonville Fl. I would just say if you and your husband agree to you being a stay at home mom. You would save alot of money on childcare for sure. The only thing I would say being a stay at home mom. Is dont lose yourself or your independence being overly worked and concerned with the kids. Always do something that make you happy and feel great. I would say that anyone tha have kids. If they could stay home with their kids. Wow!! what a BLESSING and a great reward. Take care I wish you the BEST.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I have my degree in Applied Science - Medical Administrative Assistant.  Well I have been thinking and I already have a job at the home depot - I make $8.76 - practically as much money as some people start out at as a medical administrative assistant.  Plus, it's really flexible and I can change my availability and take a day off whenever I need.  Plus, if an emergency comes up, I can call in without feeling guilty.  I think until both kids are in school I'm going to say I can work at night, then when they are in school work while they are in school.  Home Depot is a really good place to work, they are good to their employees, so I think this is a good option!!!

[BK_Adores_Chase]

Don't you think my degree will be junk when they are grown up?  My fiance says he doesn't care if I stay home.  Plus, if they are in day care by the time I get home from work all I'll have time to do is cook, clean up my cooking mess, then get the kids ready for bed.  Then I go to bed.  No fun!