would u have a bf/gf without having ur divorse final yet?

[Storm61115]

well, i was just informed that my cousin on my dad's side is getting a divorse from her husband. he posted stories on fb about some problems he was having with her. i do believe him, but i know there are 2 sides to every story. after i heard they were getting a divorse my first thought was that my cousin was cheating on him. it would make sense coz from what he says she was always so secretive and put passwords on the computer just one day out of the blue. ok, i feel for him i really do coz if she's anything like me.. she is cheating. and it's not because she doesnt love him.. it's coz she wants more attention then she's getting. then i see that this guy one other guy is leaving messages on my cousins wall. that didnt make me very happy, knowing also that she's still married(he might just be a real good friend but, still). it wasnt bad..but it was offensive to me cause i do know her husband and i do like him. so, today i find out that she's dating this dude that has been posting on her wall. that upsetted me coz i know the divorse isnt final ..it cant be that fast!! damn my cousin's husband must have gone through the roof with that one..if he saw it. i wouldnt be a happy camper if i saw that(if i was him). i want to say something to her about it but it's not my place or my business. just seems like now my suspections were correct or she was trying to pursue a relationship with another guy, this guy, leading up to it being official.

[jamiebonds03]

Well I'm not married and like you said you don't know what was going on in the relationship so it's hard to say what you would and wouldn't do, but If I WERE to to something like that I don't think I would advertise any of it on facebook. facebook pages are being used so much now in court cases, especially divorces. It's just showing proof of infidelity.

[raven1114]

if it's over it's over, why should a person have to wait on a piece of paper to start moving on with their life.

[jamiebonds03]

if it's over it's over, why should a person have to wait on a piece of paper to start moving on with their life.

I agree, but don't provide the other person with proof that you've done it while still married, many of times that's gonna cost you.

[jaymz462]

Speaking from experience, yes.  My ex-wife and I had been split for months before the divorce was finalized, and I saw no reason to wait around for it.

[roshelle7]

i would end that marriage completely first

[kangagirl1321]

this bothers me alot, more now because her husband is the father of her now 2 1/2 yr old and i know he doesnt understand why he has to go to 2 different places to see either his mom or dad, and not them together. uh, poor kid. this would be different if they didnt have a kid together.

[jessicaroselorr]

Because somtimes it takes quite awhile for the divorce to go through, I think its ok to try and move on during this time.