IS IT ME???

[JerseyGirl4Life]

  Is it me or does iit seem like children these days are way more out of hand than when we were youth. Is it because of the modern technology that they have become lazy? The television. . .Is it the reason they don't want to learn anything worth while? And speaking of TV, why is it that everything that comes on, including cartoons, have to have some forem of sex?! Then you wonder why our children are becoming parents too soon and dropping out. The television is the Hellevision. SMH (Shaking My Head). Our children are our future and the future in their hands seems so vague.

[tantricia44]

Is it me or does it seem like children these days are way more out of hand than when we were youth. Is it because of the modern technology that

It's true, every generation kids are getting worst in behavior,education, respect, morals, and basically lick the skills to be an upstanding human being. There's an author(sorry can't remember name) that wrote  a book called Dumbth. He basically predicted through the trends that the kids in the future starting in the end of the late 70's will be dumber than kids in the 19th century. So, for example if you go back in time find yourself in class with early 20th century kids. You'd be blown away due to the fact that they would know math to the point where their calculator is their brain. I think that technology has pretty much handicapped us & our kids to really learning actually learning & understanding the school subjects. There are many turning points in which lead to this negative point. Here's a list of events in which I think kids are the way they are to day.

1. Punishment thanks to the government, Parent's can't spank their kids. In facts kids can report to the police that their parents are abusing them. Shot even now, my dad just has to give me a look or say my name in that voice & I'm back to being a good girl. 
2. Punishment in schools thanks to govern again, the school can't paddle a delinquent student anymore.
3. No, kid left behinds, I don't which president got into this but it basically, hurt the kids by passing kids to the next grade level so they can be with there student counterparts thus not be left behind. The problem is those students that was spared the embarrassment of being held back don't have the skills to be in that higher grade level. Some may squeak through others will be repeating that grade. Shot, when I was in school, nobody cared about my feelings when I was held back due to a head injury in a car accident. I was stuck with kids 1 yr younger than me!
4. Broken marriages, single mothers, working 2 jobs. Now a days there i usually 1 parent taking care of everything that he or she doesn't have the time to monitor the kids. No parents to check your homework, make sure you come home on time, teach you morals, teach you to have pride in all the things you do. To do it well or as best as your ability can even if it's just scrubbing the bathroom floor.
5. Through guilt parents will give their kids monies for them not being there to be a parent. The problem is that when you have every thing anytime you want you'll feel that anything you want will be given to you. Reality will kick in when you're on your own w/o mommy & daddy's monies to support you.
6. Media perspective: During the 60's & 70's the social quota was Be good in school, sports,maybe fashion. The ideal athlete is high achieving with at least a 3.5 GPA, is helpful in society volunteers, keeps out of trouble, keeps his/her reputation respectable, Hangs out with the right crowd & friends.
The student athlete of today. Well into the fashion trends, GPA 2.0, is a society disruption. Hangs out with a bad crowd & friends, has bad rep. with parents/media, achievements : Jailed 1 or twice for stealing, jail 1 or twice for gang fights,jailed 1 or twice for accusation rape...... etc....need I say more. I wonder what parent would be proud to see their son's line up picture in the nightly news. There more factors of why kids today are like they are but I'd be writing novel if I continue. Reality of today is, Kids of today are just a bunch of spoiled, greedy,whining, crying shame, brats! If you as a parent don't prevent this trend, you get what you deserve a spoiled brat. If you use preventive measures of the past, your kid may turn out normal. 

[ksmie1962]

I know it's crazy - how can a 2.0 student be expected to be productive in society?  2.0??? Really??? I think they need to have better standards for all and raise that to at least a 3.0 - B average.  I mean don't we want them to have skills for life? *sigh* 

[bud1]

You can not even raise your voice or your hand to child without the fear of  being arrested.  There is a big difference between spanking your child and beating him. The old saying " spare the rod spoil the child"  holds true today. When I was growing up, I had my share of spankings and I turned out fine. All kids get today are timeouts which are useless as a car without a motor

[Boise40]

I had my share of spankings, mouth being washed out with soap or hot sauce, time outs when I was a kid. I'm 24 now and I turned out pretty good myself. I'm holding down a job, paying bills and taking responsibility for my action. I don't really hang out with anyone around my own age. They seem to be too immature for me.

[timetravel]

I used to work for child protective services and saw enough results from "spanking" to last me a lifetime.  I have two adult children - one 25; my son just turned 18.  I never ever struck either of them.  Children can be raised successfully without resulting to striking them.  The old "some kids seem to be asking for it" - usually they are asking for attention - and what's wrong with spending time and paying attention to our children?  Rather than elicit "nos" from my toddlers - I would give them choices - "do you want the apple juice or the orange juice" .  Even when money was tight we would watch t.v. together, play games together.  My son was a handful - I'll give him that!  But today, at 18, I can honestly say he doesn't do drugs, doesn't drink - he has a gentle heart with animals - works well with me with stray and abandoned cats.  Once you strike a kid - even one slap - for the first time - your relationship is forever altered.  It will never ever go back.  Just my opinion of course.
  And as far as the sex and such in video games, t.v., movies, etc. - I can still remember as a teen trying to find out about all the stuff that wasn't talked about! 

[ladypisces]

I'm a single mom of 4 kids, all under the age of 16. It's extremely hard trying to raise them alone, especially with all of the negativity on the streets, on the radio, and on the tv. I was born and raised in the country, so I'm raising my kids the way I was raised.  I don't buy them things just because they ask for it.  I make them earn it.  They have to bring home good grades, they have to clean their rooms everyday, wash dishes after dinner (not using the dishwasher), and on weekends we go out for nature walks to keep their eyes out of the tv.  My kids call me "sister soldier" because I act like a drill sargent, but I have to because I'm by myself and I have to take control or else they'll try to control me.  I can honestly say, my kids respect me and don't get into any trouble.  THANK GOD FOR MY PEACE OF MIND.

[mawhite63]

I used to work for child protective services and saw enough results from "spanking" to last me a lifetime.  I have two adult children - one 25; my son just turned 18.  I never ever struck either of them.  Children can be raised successfully without resulting to striking them. 

Yeah. I wasn't spanked, and I don't spank.

How long did you work for CPS timetravel? I don't think I'd last at a job like that. Sometimes I consider volunteering for CASA but even then I'm not sure I'd be able to handle it. I'm thinking of taking the 30 hour training program to see if I'd be cut out for it.

[madeara]

Children need their parents time, love and attention.

[JerseyGirl4Life]

tantricia44
 
You hit the hammer straight on the nail with your reply and have never been farther from the truth. Thanks for replying!

[mynevaeh]

I could not have put that better myself.  This world is changing all too fast and for the worst.  Then they ask why our kids do not respect us these days.  I personally spank my child when a time out or another form of punishment does not work.  I too was spanked and had my share of mouth fulls but you know what?? I completely respect my mother and will do the same with my child.

[fusion61]

Children should stay out of texting and stop watching television.

[ppv2]

My niece is two.  My sister reads to her daily.  She is very smart, and is not allowed to watch TV.

[lennydee]

I am the proud father of seven children, i had to raise four of them by myself. From the age of 1 year old to the age of12 {2 girls and one boy}Now they are all grown I have nine grandchildrens. It was ruff raising them but not as hard as one may think. You just have find what there intrest are an focuse with them on it. Each child need special attention just for them.

[jazdaddy]

"I am the proud father of seven children, i had to raise four of them by myself. From the age of 1 year old to the age of12 {2 girls and one boy}Now they are all grown I have nine grandchildrens. It was ruff raising them but not as hard as one may think. You just have find what there intrest are an focuse with them on it. Each child need special attention just for them."

I could not agree more. I am the proud father of four children and I raised my oldest from birth to five years old, when I was lucky enough to find my partner in life, Michelle. Each of my children have a passion in which they chase. For my oldest it is music. He wants to play drums and write songs and become a rock star. So we listen to videos and think of things to write about. My oldest girl is a violinist and loves comedy so I help her with tuning her electric violin and listen as she practices so she knows that I care. My son of ten wants to be a professional athlete. He loves football, wrestling and ju-jitsu. I work with him daily on throwing and catching his football and we also talk about the sports he loves and how he must use his brain as well as his brawn to be the best he can be. And last, last but not least, my youngest, and most determined child. She is seven years old and is a girl scout, an artist and soccer wannabe. With her I help with the crafts for girl scouts and we sell cookies together, she has her own sketch pad and art supplies as she is already better at art than dad.
As a single father in the Army, I was made to go through parenting and anger management classes. In those classes I was taught that a child only needs five minutes per day of undivided attention to feel secure enough to make good decisions. I have been lucky in the fact that my children are all honor roll students and decent citizens. I am not the greatest father in the world by any means, but on July 15, 1994, life stopped being about me and became about my children.