Would you give your cheating Husband/Boyfriend a second chance to save

[tantricia44]

your relationship? Recently one of my friends is having this issue. I told her to dump the cheating *bleep* once, a cheater always a cheater. I believe you have a choice  & if you cheat once you'll do it again. I did the same once end even though we tried to work it out, I couldn't really trust him ever again. It's like having to watch him like you would watch a wild dog so it wouldn't get away. In the end, I ended the relationship & walked. It took a couple of years & met my husband. He wowed my with his genius mind, & his gentle & kind soul. When I met him, something in my brain sparked & ignited fire works!  Like it was telling me This is the One!

I love my friend but she's being such a real idiot. Why would she settle for 2nd best or in her case 3rd best because he's got 2 other whores on the side. Aside from smacking my friend around to shake this loser that has this hold on her; Anyone here in the FC family have any Ideas,suggestions, legal ways to kill dead beat cheaters....please do not hesitate to replay.

So, would you give your cheating partner a seconds chance to save your relationship?

[Mascitelli]

I would say if you believe once a cheater is always a cheater that is not 100% true. There are many "reasons" that people cheat. Yes they are not good reasons to do that but believe it or not it is true. I would give my parnter a second chance if she told me about it right a way. The really best way to handle this sisuation is to talk about it and see if you can find a reason behind it. If you going to give him a second chance you really should look for these clues that are worth a second chance. The biggest point that you will need to pay attention to is are you communicating with you boyfreind/husband and listening to what he saids? If not then he could be out just getting everything off his chest to anyone that will listen. Ask they guy if you were doing something wrong. If you can't get anything out then just leave him and cut off all comunication. I would say this if you believe once a cheater always a cheater be prepare for a world of hurt and lonliness. The reason that I say that I wouldn't was my time with someone like that no matter how I feel about you or compatiple we are. In other words if you are that controling and insecaure I'm gone.

[squirrelgirl44]

As far as I know, I have never been cheated on. I don't think I am the type of person that could just forgive and forget. I really think I would just have to be done. I know I would always be suspicious and jealous and that is no way to live.

[cubarican210]

I know there is no justification as to why a person would cheat on their spouse but the person who's being cheated on has to got to ask themselves if they're giving enough attention to their spouse or if they're smothering him or her. It can go both ways. If you're being too attentive they'll see that as being clingy and if you're ignoring him or her all together they're going to get what they want some place else. You just can't be too much of one thing. Remember too much of one thing can be bad for you.

[sadie524]

I'm with you. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. There's a reason someone cheats, and that's not just going to go away. I, myself, couldn't look at someone every day knowing they betrayed me like that, so no, I could never give a second chance.

[edugie]

never,ever! once a cheat, always a cheat. As the old saying goes, once beaten, twice shine.

[Theladyjoker1817]

your relationship? Recently one of my friends is having this issue. I told her to dump the cheating *bleep* once, a cheater always a cheater. I believe you have a choice  & if you cheat once you'll do it again. I did the same once end even though we tried to work it out, I couldn't really trust him ever again. It's like having to watch him like you would watch a wild dog so it wouldn't get away. In the end, I ended the relationship & walked. It took a couple of years & met my husband. He wowed my with his genius mind, & his gentle & kind soul. When I met him, something in my brain sparked & ignited fire works!  Like it was telling me This is the One!

I love my friend but she's being such a real idiot. Why would she settle for 2nd best or in her case 3rd best because he's got 2 other whores on the side. Aside from smacking my friend around to shake this loser that has this hold on her; Anyone here in the FC family have any Ideas,suggestions, legal ways to kill dead beat cheaters....please do not hesitate to replay.

So, would you give your cheating partner a seconds chance to save your relationship?



YEA I DID THAT AN IT TURNS OUT THAT HE WAS AN SORRY  THAT KICK ME AND MY SON OUT OF THE HOUSE AND LEFT USE WITH NOTHING BUT MY MOM HELP USE OUT AND IM BACK ON MY FEET LIVING WITH HER HELPING MY SON OUT.. GOOD THINGS CAME OUT FOR US AND BAD THIS CAME OUT FOR HIM HE LOST THE HOUSE AND HIS CAR I LAUGH AT HIM AND SAY THATS WHAT YOU GET... I LOVE MY SON AND WE ARE HAPPY KNOW WITHOUT HIM IN THE PICTURE HAAHAHA ON HIM

[kjeno]

i did that to my wife i wish i would have left her the first time she cheated cuz she kept doing it i dont give 2nd chances anymore

[jnjmolly]

The only way that I could forgive them is if I found out from them!! If he told her that he cheated and he understands that he made a mistake and feels sorry and bad for what he did then I could think about giving him a second chance.

[gaylasue]

Once a cheat, always a cheat.

[laryssam]

I guess there is a possibility I would give a cheating man another chance if God was in it.

[Mascitelli]

For all that think once a cheater is always a cheater.l I really feel sorry for but I don't think you be happy with that opoion. Lik some one said and myself  you have a man cheating on you then YOU NEED TO STOP AND QUESTION YOURSELF AND YOU HUSBAND/BOYFREIND. You need to think have I been giving him the space that he needs, have I been to clignly or needy, did I push him a way? I speak from experiance with my ex wife. NO I never cheated on her even though there were times that her family accused me of it. She pretty much drove me a way to the point were I'm not talking to her or don't want anything to do with her. I know she want me back but she lost that chance a long time ago. THIS IS ONE OF THE REASON THAT GUYS CHEAT..YES IT IS A CHOICE BUT SOMETIME THINGS HAPPENS. So if you are one of those people that are clignly or need and beleives that once a cheater is always a cheater THEN YOU ARE ON A LONG ROAD OF UN HAPPNESS. IN OTHER WORDS THE ONE THAT YOU MAY LOVE AND IF HE NEVER CHEATED YOU WOULD BE WITH FOR THE REST OF YOU LIFE IS LONG GONE AND YOU DON'T GET A 2ND CHANCE.