Did you want children? Were they planned?

[marieelissa]

I am curious as to why someone thinks it is a good idea to bring children into this world.

[dawn21207]

I am curious as to why someone thinks it is a good idea to bring children into this world.

Not everyone thinks this world is as terrible as you do.


And my son was not planned. But I do plan on bringing more children into "this world"

[amyrouse]

Because with all its faults, this world is really an amazing place.  My daughter and my husband make the world infinitely more beautiful to me.  And I will do everything I can to make my daughter's world a beautiful place, too.  She wasn't planned, but she was desperately wanted.  I was willing to give up everything for her, and I still am.  She sees so much beauty in the world, too.  This world is too good to not share.  Whatever comes, we're lucky to be here.

[articx]

Having children keeps humans from going exist.

[angelhome]

I am curious as to why someone thinks it is a good idea to bring children into this world.

none of my children were planned, but they are all great blessings to me. Do you have any children?
you can not understand where parents come from until you look into the innocent face of a baby, or watch them
smile and grow. They are a part of you and you experience 'love' like you have never known. the way GOD loves us
but hates our sin.

[footemama]

In a way my son was both planned and unplanned. I wanted to have a baby but I knew that I needed to wait for a bit. He was planned but the time of his arrival was unplanned if that makes sense. He was about 2 years early. LOL

As far as bringing a child into "this world"..... Every point in history has had bad things and good things. There is never (and there never has been) a "perfect" time to have a child. There never will be a perfect time to have a child, life just doesn't work that way. As with all things you just do the best you can. It will be enough.

[ULuvCeCe]

When I was young I did not want children. It wasn't until college that I decided I did. My plan was to own my car by 20, 4 yr degree by 21, homeowner by 22 then hopefully an engagement which would lead to marriage then baby in the 25 area. Well I hit 20, 21 and 22 w/o problems and the whole plan got messy after, my son wasn't planned, we weren't married let alone engaged but he did arrive 11 days before my 26th birthday - maybe God was trying to humor me. Either way, he is the best thing I have ever done and "this world" is what I am going to create for him. Sure there will be bullies, our government will have their heads up their who-dee-whos etc etc but what matters is how he is raised to deal with life.

[bschumacher]

I wanted children, but at the time I could have had them, I had a husband who would not have been a great father. People should have children not to fulfill their own needs, but to provide the stability and good environment that the children need.

[nelisa20]

Did you ever think about the fact that if no one thought
to "bring children in the world" , you wouldn't be alive
yourself.

[lgemini]

Since I was a young girl I wanted kids, but I did not know how many.  I knew I did not what to be single and  poor raising six kids like my mother.  So I planned to have kids with my husband.   Since I did go to college I was able to get a very good job. Today we have three kids, because we can take of them.   

[U2BMATH]

For my wife and I, it was a money decision not to have kids. After 22 1/2 years of marriage, we still don't have them, and can't anymore. Now, someone correct me if I'm wrong, but did you know Betty White never had kids either? And I think she's in her 80's now. Does she look unhappy? I don't get that impression.

What do I mean it was a money decision? Well, we were never, nor are we now, financially wealthy. We live paycheck to paycheck, and have for all of our marriage. We don't see that ever changing. Both of us have SOME college background, but neither of us ever graduated from college, only HS. We refused to bring a child into this world if we ourselves could not stand on our own two feet.

Unfortunately, neither side of our families left us an inheritance, or prepared us for a family business of any kind. We make less than $10,000 a year, but we're happy with one another. In our own sights, it was an irresponsible thing to bring a child into the world on those terms. And we refused to use the powers of Welfare to do so.

Early on in our marriage, adoption seemed more of a reasonable solution. If we could not afford to have our own kids, why not make some other kids happy that don't have a family to call their own? We explored this option, but it never came to be. It's still a contemplation for us, but as the years dwindle down in our life, we realizing this will never come to pass either.

So, like Betty White, animals became our focus. We adopted two doggies from a shelter, and I'll tell ya this. They make our lives so happy! And it's so much less expensive than bringing up a child on minimum income. But then, we're left to wonder. How much more happier would our lives have been having had children - if we didn't let money be the dictator in having them? One could only wonder though, I suppose.

I wish we were all born with a Silver Spoon, but regrettably, we're not, are we?

[mrstina08]

God established the earth with family in mind. Be fruitful and multiply but if you are not married.Let the kids stay where they are. I wanted kids. I have 3 kids. 2 of my pregantcies were planned.

[ghunter]

Yes, I wanted and have children.  Children are a gift from God.  My children were planned and They have grown up to be great adult and now have children of their own

[vicogden]

My children weren't planned, but I certainly didn't complain when they each made their way into the world.  I have 3 kids that are the loves of my life.  If you're a peron who chose not to have kids, it is certainly your right to do as you want.  Kids simply aren't for some people.  But I truly believe you don't know what you're missing unless you've actually been a parent.  There is no love like that for a child.

[foreverinlove05]

My cousin and her boyfriend had their first child in january (wasn't planned) and i remember him telling my boyfriend that someone he worked with said she got pregnant because he just had a kid, wtf is that???

When i was in high school, i thought life would just take off after i graduated. i'd get a good job, get married to my boyfriend, and have a kid by the time i was 25. well...i'm 24 now and none of that has happened lol. my priorities have definitely changed and when my cousin had her baby, i actually thought of doing the same thing, but i don't want to bring a child into the world and not be completely ready for it. i also wouldn't mind having any children, just a cat named charmin (yes like the toilet paper) and a dog named rocko (boyfriend's gotta have a dog). i think the bf wants kids more than i do. besides...pets are less work than children and you can love them just as much!