Are you scared to live on your own?

[squirrelgirl44]

Nope, not at all. I have lived on my own on and off for years. Most of the time I prefer it. So much easier to keep the place clean!

[Tere2]

I've been living alone for 2 years now and not scared, yet. When I was younger, I was afraid to live alone but I'm used to it now.

[lorettahknox]

Anyone live by themselves on here? I could never live on my own, I would have to get some pets.
[I admire women with the level of independence that allows them to live on their own, but I don't judge people who don't. I personally suggest you take all security precautions necessary and it can be done safely. Living on your own can be wonderful if family and friends are encouraged to visit often. You should never expose yourself to danger by living wrecklessly. Do not invite guys you pick up in a bar or don't know well to your home no matter how nice they are. Have fun and be careful.Be aware of your surroundings.You can do it. /quote]

[Phx0808]

First of all, let me say, "Great question!" Thanks for asking it.

I am 50 years old and have never been married. This is by choice. The choice was made partly on the results of a traffic accident where I lost my fiance a few days before Christmas when I was about 30. She was killed by a drunk driver. I have lived with other people (roommates, gf, etc.). For the most part, living alone has been okay. When I suffer, I can do it alone and quietly without affecting other people (eg. People at church aren't affected if I have an illness or are down in the dumps as much as someone living with you would be affected.

I am around people all the time.
I teach English as a Foreign Language. I attend church and church meetings several times a week.
My friends are great and I have close friends. I help neighbors when I can.  I do work with youth and have housed them for a night or two while the state finds them a permanent foster home.

I have never been an animal person. They are costly, smelly, and stinky. Like others here, if I go on trip even for few a days, I would need someone to watch them.
 
However, as I do get older, I feel having someone to come home to would be nice. Someone who is committed to you and you are committed to them. Someone who is on your team and together you take on the world and what life throws at you. Someone to share in the disappointments and victories in the game of life.

My only regret is that I have not had anyone nor it is likely to have someone call me, Dad.

So all in all, like anything choice we make, there are good and bad things about your choice. It's not a perfect world; no matter what we choose.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will direct your paths.

Proverbs 3: 5-6

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;

Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;

Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.

Amen.
--Reinhold Niebuhr

Thanks for reading my ramblings.  
May God richly bless you.

[gerard47]

Im 18 and i plan to move out my mother's next year. I wish I was moving alone but Im going to have a room mate . Its my best friend I treat him like blood. But one day i would love to live alone

[tzs]

Noooooooo! I have had enough life experience to do so....

[guerera]

No I never was afraid of living alone , but what i can say is good to come home n find a person who loves and cuddles u .

[timetravel]

I am 55 and never had the luxury of living alone.  My husband is 78 and our children - well, the youngest just turned 18 and the other will be 26.  When Paul goes away to college and eventually gets a  job and his own place, I will probably be alone then.  I have no idea how much more time I have with my husband who is not in the best physical condition - spinal stenosis, high bp, etc. - a lot of things that come with the territory of senior citizenship! 
I actually look forward to being alone - with my cats.  I do not think pets are smelly and disgusting, unlike some other posters here.  People who come in here aren't even aware we have cats until they see them!  it all depends on how well you take care of them and your home.  The litter boxes are covered and constantly scooped.  I vacuum cat hairs up several times a week.  My cats provide me with all I need in terms of companionship.

[amyrouse]

A husband would not put up with that.  Next thing ya know, his laundry and stuff has to take priority. I like being single, and independent.

Because, you know, the man's stuff is sooo much more important than the woman's.  A woman who is married cannot possibly have any independence, because its her job to take care of her husband, and to clean and do the dishes.  And don't forget: to make his pot pie!

I'm very happily married, and I am independent.  I do need to compromise with my husband on some aspects, because we have a child.  However, my husband is a stay at home parent and I work.  This is not emasculating at all.  We are a team with mutual responsibilities that are not divided upon gender lines by some outdated gender roles.  Anyone spreading this sort of thinking is living in the dark ages. 

[swv]

I have been on my own for so long, it doesn't bother me anymore. However, I do feel a bit more secure with my dogs.. I have 2 that stay outside and my boxer stays inside.

[ULuvCeCe]

I wish I could go back and live alone lol But now I have a son and a fiancee so even if I got rid of the later, I would still have my son for 18 more years. Either way, don't be scared to be by yourself, you can never really know who you are if your life always depends on having other people around!

[tzs]

I wish I could go back and live alone lol But now I have a son and a fiancee so even if I got rid of the later, I would still have my son for 18 more years. Either way, don't be scared to be by yourself, you can never really know who you are if your life always depends on having other people around!

LOVE the Boston Red Sox logo!!!!
I totally agree with you, because one can truly find out who they are without their parents, roomates or others around! You have to learn to live without a safety net, and catch yourself!

[ULuvCeCe]

I wish I could go back and live alone lol But now I have a son and a fiancee so even if I got rid of the later, I would still have my son for 18 more years. Either way, don't be scared to be by yourself, you can never really know who you are if your life always depends on having other people around!

LOVE the Boston Red Sox logo!!!!
I totally agree with you, because one can truly find out who they are without their parents, roomates or others around! You have to learn to live without a safety net, and catch yourself!

Thanks Tzs! And wonderful way to put that.

[CharmedPhoenix]

I've been the only human in my household since 1987.  I'm not afraid and wouldn't have it any other way.  I need a lot of alone time, keep strange hours and don't have to worry about leaving projects out.  I'll always have pets, but if they're not legal dependents than you're living alone.

[BrokenBeautifully]

I have a puppy named Rascal for my anxiety so even if I was "living on my own" I would still have him, so no I guess I'm not scared.