Marriage before moving in?

[beat1220]

So my boyfriend of 3 years and I are saving up to move to an apartment together. We just found out I was pregnant.Hes 20 and Im 19.Do you guys think we should get married before moving in just to complete the process? Our famiies are very traditional but we have to save as much as we can now how can we afford a dress and rings on top of that?

[cloudsoup]

i totally understand that both families are traditional,
but life happens, and getting married just because you're
pregnant now (even though your life is heading in that
direction anyway) shouldn't be a priority at the moment.

i guess i should say a wedding shouldn't be a priority
right now, instead of marriage. you could easily get a marriage
license and have a small get together with your families (but
i'm assuming this really isn't what you have in mind - trust me,
i'm with you. being broke with the dream of a wedding isn't
fun!)

...i think you should focus on your little family that's about to
blossom and what's best for them at the moment. a wedding
can always come later (weddings can cause lots of stress &that's
the last thing you need!)

if your families are more concerned about a marriage/wedding
than you are, they can gladly pitch in and help with the cost,
right?   just my opinion...

[irishlady1970]

Don't get married for the sake of getting married or to please your family. Do whats right for you and your boyfriend. You both are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. Move into a nice little apartment and save up for a small wedding later on down the road, if marraige is want you both want. Take your time and make sure that marraige is what you want. I waited 7 years to get married and my wedding was a very small get together in my best friends back yard. I wouldn't change that for anything, not for the stress of arranging a wedding and the cost.

[beat1220]

 Thank you guys for the help