Taking *bleep* For Granted

[502mania]

Before I start: no, I will never censor myself. that being said......
My little brother lives like a king. our mom gives him everying he could ever want, but he always as smethin  to complain about. I've tried explaining how lucky he is to have the life he has. Me and my girlfriend have it worse than him, and still, we have a good life/living conditons. I've tried teling him that his tablescraps would be a five star meal for a child from korea or afgnistan, but he insists on bitchng about "not having" shoes, etc. How can i get the message across to him that he's lucky to live the way he does and to stop taking *bleep* for granted?

[Annella]

Before I start: no, I will never censor myself. that being said......
My little brother lives like a king. our mom gives him everying he could ever want, but he always as smethin  to complain about. I've tried explaining how lucky he is to have the life he has. Me and my girlfriend have it worse than him, and still, we have a good life/living conditons. I've tried teling him that his tablescraps would be a five star meal for a child from korea or afgnistan, but he insists on bitchng about "not having" shoes, etc. How can i get the message across to him that he's lucky to live the way he does and to stop taking *bleep* for granted?

Sounds like someone is spoiled, and hasn't matured yet.  Since everything was given to him, he hasn't learned that hard work provides the necessities of life, including the lux items.  Nobody appreciates everything given to them, if they've put no effort to earn or deserve them themselves.  They usually grow up thinking society also owes them a living too.  He needs to grow up and learn some responsibility.

[502mania]

That may be it, Anella. I jut wish I could get the message across.

[502mania]

How old is he?

14
By the tme i was 14, i'd pretty much learned to appreciate everything i had and work hard for what i wanted.

[jordandog]

Sounds like someone is spoiled, and hasn't matured yet.  Since everything was given to him, he hasn't learned that hard work provides the necessities of life, including the lux items.  Nobody appreciates everything given to them, if they've put no effort to earn or deserve them themselves.  They usually grow up thinking society also owes them a living too.  He needs to grow up and learn some responsibility.

Ahhh, I didn't even realize you know my youngest brother, the 'baby' of the family! That is the epitome of how he is, and sadly, even now at the age of 49. I choose not be around him if it is not necessary, like a family wedding or something I cannot bow out of. This may sound petty, but considering I worked my tail off (starting working at 14), paid for all of my education, and managed to raise 3 sons alone, I can't tolerate him for more than 15 minutes - all his drinking buddies can though. He has never had kids to worry about providing for, his house was outright given to him by another family member with all contents included, so any conversation immediately goes into 'all about him' and his biggest worry is that he 'has to have' a new car every year. But his life, as he will readily tell you, 'sucks'. I just shake my head as I drive away in my 12 year old (but perfectly fine with me) vehicle.

502mania, at least your brother is still young enough to learn what mine never did. That will only happen though if your parents (or whoever else does) stops enabling him and he gets a reality check, smack in the face!

[Falconer02]

How can i get the message across to him that he's lucky to live the way he does and to stop taking *bleep* for granted?

You won't until he moves out or something. All that you can do for now is beat him up like every loving older brother should!

[roguetodd]

How can i get the message across to him that he's lucky to live the way he does and to stop taking *bleep* for granted?

You won't until he moves out or something. All that you can do for now is beat him up like every loving older brother should!

Sibling relationships at their finest.

[Annella]

You won't until he moves out or something. All that you can do for now is beat him up like every loving older brother should!

Sibling relationships at their finest.

lol lol lol

[amyrouse]

Just keep your fingers crossed that he won't turn into one of those "the-world-is-out-to-get-me-woe-is-me" adults.  There are so many people who were spoon fed everything and took everything for granted...then when they got older, they didn't get that reality check from the real world and instead, when they are broke and can't get everything they want, they blame the world for their own behavior...because, hey, mom and dad got me everything I ever wanted, so why shouldn't everyone else fork it over to me?  Some people are just that special.  It irritates me, because there are people who are really struggling, and when someone complains that their credit card bill is just too high, it makes me want to vomit.  Seriously...I'm figna vomick.

/endrant

[502mania]

How can i get the message across to him that he's lucky to live the way he does and to stop taking *bleep* for granted?

You won't until he moves out or something. All that you can do for now is beat him up like every loving older brother should!

I don't really get to spend enough time with him to, i used to. i live on my own now, and that's probably why.

[FuzzyCottonsocks]

Make him watch a St. Jude's telethon.  If he doesn't appreciate life in general after seeing children battling cancer, then he just sucks and you shouldn't waste your time.

[jordandog]

Make him watch a St. Jude's telethon.  If he doesn't appreciate life in general after seeing children battling cancer, then he just sucks and you shouldn't waste your time.

FuzzyC, That's a great idea in theory, but considering he is 14 (and a male on top of that ), I really doubt that would make an impression on him. At that age he is invincible, weren't we all, and would probably figure "Yeah, too bad for them, but what's it got to with me?"
Hope this makes some sense.

[FuzzyCottonsocks]

Make him watch a St. Jude's telethon.  If he doesn't appreciate life in general after seeing children battling cancer, then he just sucks and you shouldn't waste your time.

FuzzyC, That's a great idea in theory, but considering he is 14 (and a male on top of that ), I really doubt that would make an impression on him. At that age he is invincible, weren't we all, and would probably figure "Yeah, too bad for them, but what's it got to with me?"
Hope this makes some sense.

I was originally going to suggest that someone drop him in the middle of Sahara and let him find his own way back. Is that better?  lol

[jordandog]

Make him watch a St. Jude's telethon.  If he doesn't appreciate life in general after seeing children battling cancer, then he just sucks and you shouldn't waste your time.

FuzzyC, That's a great idea in theory, but considering he is 14 (and a male on top of that ), I really doubt that would make an impression on him. At that age he is invincible, weren't we all, and would probably figure "Yeah, too bad for them, but what's it got to with me?"
Hope this makes some sense.

I was originally going to suggest that someone drop him in the middle of Sahara and let him find his own way back. Is that better?  lol

NOW you're on the right track! As long as someone eventually goes to find him in a reasonable amount of time - definately don't want him dying, just some sense (and sand) knocked into him...

[502mania]

LOL at the Sahara thing.
I guess I'll have to wait 'till he gets older