Is 19 to young to be married?

[kristine9109]

I am currently engaged to a guy who is 20, not much older than myself. I am very mature for my age and i know what i want out of a relationship. Give me some ideas of what you think is to young or if 19 is way to young?

[jusu]

Marriage is a huge responsibility BUT I think that Love and your heart have no age restrictions. My Sister was married when she was 20, our Family was so angry...they just had their 40th anniversary. If you believe that you can handle the stress and ups and downs of married life then you have to listen to your heart.

[kristine9109]

Thank you for your post. My family is so uptight about marriage at a young age but they all have been married at least three times. I know that i can be in a devoted relationship. He's in the army and will be deploying soon, he knows ill be faithful, all i need is my dog and school.

[surveydad]

I don't think your age matters, Only you know if your mature enough to handle married life, it's not like your kids with nothing going for you and no plans and just decided to get married, your guy is going to be protecting this country.

I say do what you think is right for you, Good luck, Congratulations and Thank you and your Man for your sacrifice to protecting freedom 

[samiole32]

As they said before it's huge responsability and you have to be willing to do ur best to make it work so you'll take a lot of stress if you think you can do it and belive that he can do it too then it's ur perfect age, but honestly for me I think it's too young to know exactly what you really want as you don't have enough experience so I think you should give urself second chance to think about it if you get to the same beleive that both of you can do it then Congratulations and I wish u the best of luck

[franlee46]

I am currently engaged to a guy who is 20, not much older than myself. I am very mature for my age and i know what i want out of a relationship. Give me some ideas of what you think is to young or if 19 is way to young?

Well I was twenty when I married and if I had it to do all over again I would wait until I accomplished some goals of my own before settling down, like an education, career, travel some, saving account, and maybe doing what ever I really wanted to do your passion, because before you know it children, house mortgage, bills bills all come, live a little first then think long and hard about marriage!!!!!

[animikokala]

It's not a matter of whether you are "too young" or not.  If you believe you are mature enough, and that you love this man, then that should be enough for you; nothing people say or don't say on this forum should change that. 

That being said, have you truly thought about what it will be like when he deploys?  Trust me, if you love him, then a dog and school will not allow you to be "fine".  Being apart for an extended period of time is extremely rough (emotionally) on a relationship.  My fiance often has to travel, sometimes for months at a time, for disaster recovery tests for his job.  We've been together for 7 years now (and I was your age when we first got together), but it's still very lonely without him when he's gone.  Also, having grown up in a military town, I've seen firsthand just what it's like for the military wives. 

Also, have you truly talked to your family about WHY they are so uptight about young marriage?  Perhaps they married young and regret it, and simply don't wish for you to have a similar experience... (of course, only you know if they did or not; I don't, this is merely speculation on my part)  My parents married young (and divorced young) so I do know about remarriages firsthand.

[CandiceAnn1122]

I'm 23 and I wish someone would have warned me. You might love this person, you might see yourself having this persons children, cooking for him, picking up his underwear off of the bathroom floor. All of these things can be accomplished without getting married. Just remember that a marriage is a legal binding contract. There's no point in rushing things. If it feels right now, it will feel right in 5 years, in 15 years... In 40 years. Good luck in whatever you decide. 

[gesus]

i dont think so it depends on the 19 yr old some mature faster than others , but dont come and run for the hills when it comes time to be an adult after the "cuteness" of marriage fades and gets real 

[Osmara13]

As long as you consider him as your best friend, you’re all. I don't see it to be too young. My husband and i were friends first, then lived together, married, just had our first child ...  to where to this day 9 years later we can come out with the same phrases at the same time.  Fights we have had i can count them with one hand and either one appologizes at the end. Our first one ever scared his kids bc they had never seen us fight before his little girl cried. After being in Disney for an entire day lost in orlando lathargic anything can happen. But at the end you have to push the little things away and look at the big picture.

[butterflymom1]

yes

[Longoria11]

WHEN U KNOW U KNOW REGARDLESS OF AGE.. SO FOLLOW UR HEART..

[teflonfanatic]

You can get married at any age, people in other countries get married much earlier then 19 such  as the sudanese, also remember if you get marry MEAN IT!!!!!! Whoever divorces their mate except on the ground of fornication and marries another commits adultery!!!!!!!!!!!!(Matthew 19:9)

[devrosekk]

there is like a 90% chance you will be divorced within 5 years if u get married at 19

[jneff0603]

I think that if you are both responsible adults- been paying your own bills, both working, have similar life goals- then age isn't important. But don't rush down the aisle...I'm a firm believer in living together before marriage so you can learn as much as possible about each other. My bf and I agree that we'd rather put money into buying a house and new cars before spending money on a piece of paper. We know we love each other, we have our family's support and that's enough.