SEX BEFORE MARRAIGE?? GOOD IDEA OR NOT?

[babysunshine]

the bible said we should not have sex before marraige....i agree but what if after u marry that person the way u wanted it its not so? or after you marry the person they begin cheating because they want to explore other sexual experience cuz they are tired of you?

[froggylover227]

I think it's a matter of personal opinion. If you think that the relationship between you and your lover is strong enough to last even after marriage, then waiting until marriage to have sex may be the best choice. It takes the pressures off of each person, and shows a strong dedication. However, if you and your lover are ready to do the deed, and you can handle any possible consequences, then there is nothing wrong with it, especially if the love between the two is cleary existent. It shows that you are comfortable with that person and trust them, and may even take pressures off of each person in the relationship. Either way, I think what is written in the Bible has been taken too literally, and when two people love each other whole-heartedly, it technically is a marriage. Now-in-days, a marriage is mostly symbolized by a piece of paper and a luxurious party, but I think what the writers of the Bible were trying to say is that there needs to be love (whether with a ring or not) in order for sex to take place, and as long as that exists, then it won't be considered "sinful".   

[babysunshine]

yeah now a days it means nothing  (to some ppl) i do agree with you.... ,

[Angelbot]

I believe it all depends on the person... me I decided to wait till AFTER i got married. just a personal choice. I know a few other family members had done it before they got married... like i said i think its all a personal decision

[502mania]

I believe it all depends on the person... me I decided to wait till AFTER i got married. just a personal choice. I know a few other family members had done it before they got married... like i said i think its all a personal decision

You're one of the last of a dying breed. lol. i haven't MET anyone with that kind of contol since my first love... good for you

[Cuppycake]

Try it before ya buy it is what I told my daughter LOL!

[babysunshine]

lol @ cuppycake.....no 'puss' in bag uhh? lol

[Cuppycake]

lol @ cuppycake.....no 'puss' in bag uhh? lol

She is a very smart girl that works entirely too hard and I trust her! She has a wonderful, loving, supportive boyfriend that adores her! My husband and I both think he is a great guy. Actually her boyfriend is an ordained minister and is the one that married us lol! She does make me feel old though as she is turning 21 in December!

[babysunshine]

aaww thats great! wish them both all the best in the future!

[502mania]

Try it before ya buy it is what I told my daughter LOL!

[Angelbot]

You're one of the last of a dying breed. lol. i haven't MET anyone with that kind of contol since my first love... good for you
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lmao why thank you.. and imagine trying to explain that to my parents just before i got married.. my mother had asked me if my hubby and i had done it before we got married and i explained to her (being very embarrased) that i was taught to wait till after i was married (although we never really practiced any religion, some things we followed) and that i knew i loved my hubby enough to wait. I know i dont have to do it every day with my hubby to love him and nore did  i have to do it with him before hand either

[syntheticbeauty]

Sex before marriage is a very interesting topic and a dying one. Not many people hold dear to this anymore.
I suppose I can be considered someone who didn't.  I didn't get married in a religious ceremony even though I wanted to.
I got married by a judge and lost my virginity after that ceremony.
I thought I was waiting before marriage by doing this but according to most priests and people I speak to I didn't get married in Gods eyes.
I am a catholic and was told that I was to young to marry even though I had all my sacraments.
I was 18 when I got married, unlike most I was wanting to settle down young.
My wanting to wait to have sex was based on fear of being used, not based on religion.
I wanted to wait for the right man and who perfect then the man wanting to marry you.
We both agreed to make everything more interesting by following the tradition of sex after the wedding.

It's something that I believe everyone should chose based on their own feelings, not based on what someone else states.
Go with your heart and know that sometimes that heart might get you hurt. It's a part of life..

[prettykitten13]

good idea

[dreamyxo]

Try it before ya buy it is what I told my daughter LOL!

My personal religion doesn't tell me I have to wait.  I've never been married not sure I will ever get married so I would have been waiting a mighty long time if I believed in that mumbo jumbo.  The only requirements I have for any kind of sex is for it to be between two consenting ADULTS.

[Storm61115]

well, i've been with 2 guys.. 2 guys that i thought i was going to marry. the first one i was madly, deepy, truely, mentially, and etc in love with and i wanted to be with him for the rest of my life but it turned out that he wanted a younger girl and married her shortly after meeting her. WTF is that all about when i have known him since middle school? i'm still with the second guy but it's not going too well right now. everything is going wrong and sometimes i just want to say screw it. someone i really like, and have dated in my childhood is still interested in me and if things dont work out with this guy then i just might go with the other one coz he's been on the outs with his girl for a long time now. even his mother has told me about it.. so i know it's not a lie.