Am I crazy?

[jneff0603]

So, my boyfriend and I have been together 2+ years and we have a 15 month old daughter. We're a happy family and a pretty strong couple. I recently started taking issue with his ex-girlfriend. They are still on friendly terms which is not a big deal at all, but since I've met her, I get the feeling that she is still into him. These are the things that make me think "Hmm..." so tell me, please, if I'm crazy to be suspicious of her. **I have total trust in my BF and have no worries on his part, just her**
1) We were invited to her son's b-day party and her mother made a point of mentioning that she (the ex) made sure to make the cake a spice cake because she knew it was my bf's favorite.
2) She sends him "forward" texts about loving him and to send it back if he feels the same.
3) She sends pics of naked girls (not her, more porno-type stuff)
4) She went a while not talking to him while she was in a relationship, but now she's single again, she sends him txt everyday.
5) Her mother gives me the stink-eye when I'm with him
6) She invited "us" to her sisters birthday at the lake
 My boyfriend agrees she's being a little to clingy lately but doesn't want to see me get all crazy so I agreed to let it go. What do you guys think?

[ButterflyWings]

Hun Trust in number one and if you have full trust in him then no matter what she does it will not matter..you are not crazy though she does seem to be into him..And it seems like he is seeing it ask him to tell her to chill because it is bothering you..She should respect your relationship but we are know some girls are well not that way they are sneaky snakes..But like I said if you trust you Bf then I would not fret..She is just a girl who wants what she cannot have..I hope this helps hun..

[BK_Adores_Chase]

This girl sounds crazy.  It's not your boyfriends fault, but I wouldn't blame you for getting jealous (I would) and it's bound to start arguments.  She might be doing it on purpose just for that reason.  I would tell her to stop stalking my boyfriend.  I try to live by the rule that I don't care who flirts with my guy, they just want what they can't have, and if he comes home faithful that's all I ask for - but it's hard to sit back and just let it take place - and in this situation, I would say something to her.

[sflynt]

It sounds like to me that she is definitely trying to start something because she obviously still has feelings. You have every right to feel the way you do. If she doesn't stop soon, then I personally would do or say something, unless your man says something first. but it should be addressed. He seems like a good guy, but if my bf was still talking to his ex I would definitely wonder if he still had feelings and I would be upset. Tell your man that its bothering you and work something out with him. If he truly cares, he will do something about it. I hope it all works out, which I think it will hun. Good luck.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

I wouldn't be upset if they were honestly just friends.  If my boyfriend and I broke up, I would hope that there wouldn't be any hard feelings and we could civilly stay friends, but the story you tell is not of two people being grown up about a break-up and staying friends, it's her still trying to get back with him.

[cloudsoup]

does he text her back? sometimes, for people to get
the HINT, they need a little reality check. maybe he
needs to nudge that idea a little bit. he wouldn't have
to hurt her feelings - just simply state the facts.
and if he can't do that, somebody should.

another thing to think about - would he be up for
hanging out with your ex, meeting your ex's mother?
would he be okay with your ex's mother giving him
the stink eye?

sometimes, guys forget what its like to be in other
people's shoes.

[mrisha]

The ex is doing everything she can to get your boyfriend.  You may trust him, but she is not to be trusted.  Why doesn't your boyfriend just block her when she sends email.  What's with you attending all the parties to his ex-girlfriends house and making his favorite cake.  Why do you go along with this nonsense?  Put a stop to all this mess or its going to get worse. 

[ULuvCeCe]

If you trust him and communicate with each other then you guys are golden.  The ex on the other hand sounds a little crazy lol  I am friends with a good majority of my ex's but we do not talk every day, there are boundaries.  Maybe he needs to make those boundaries a little more clear with her otherwise she'll never stop... or she will when she finds someone else to stalk lol

[thetotalfool]

She sounds like she wants it to be more than just a friendship.  The *bleep* thing is just crazy.

[karenkpc]

wow, cloudsoup, you REALLY hit that on the head.  yep.  set up the meeting with your ex, your mother in law, and get your ex to start sending you *bleep*...see how long it lasts.  that girl needs one heck of a lot of attention.  maybe a gift certificate to the nearest counseling agency???

[dmalsbury]

no, you are not crazy!

[klkwid]

Doesn't sound like you're crazy-it sounds like SHE's crazy!  I agree with the post that someone needs to say something to her, but I think it NEEDS to be your boyfriend.  He has to tell her that he's not interested in getting naked pictures of women sent to him, first, then second, you guys need to make it a point to not go to every single function she invites you to-it would help if he said something like "we'd like to come, but my girlfriend and I have had plans to go to her favorite restaurant and I'm really looking forward to that-have fun at your party!"  Bottom line:  She needs to be put in her place.

[jneff0603]

Thanks guys! I did have a serious conversation about it with him while we were on our vacation and he understands my point of view and agrees that he would feel the same if the table was turned. He doesn't respond to her texts as far as I've seen, just gives an eye roll and closes his phone. We don't go over there at all and he agrees that he won't go there alone. He said it's defintely gotten strange. We have a strong relationship, I just have to keep an eye on her I guess lol