How would you comfort a person in your family who just got their heart broken?

[cubarican210]

How would I nurse my family member's broken heart. It sucks to get your heart broken. It's happened to me many times before but I have my way of dealing with it. One thing is to never compromise your health because of anyone that has broken your heart. I learned to do that but how do I get my family member to do the same thing. He's not eating well, not sleeping well, and he was basically very in love with this girl. I really want to just smash her face in but that would only make matters worst. It kind of hurt me as his family member because she got into my heart as well and she seems like a very nice girl. All of a sudden out of the blue she just wants to call it quits with my family member. I really don't know what to do. I feel like he's my son and that I have to take care of him but he's 21 yrs. old. It's like his first major major heart break. I'm just glad he doesn't have any kids with her. He doesn't have to worry about that. He just needs to get himself together but I don't know how to tell him that without upsetting him even more. So anyone out there with some good advice. Let me know!

[dmalsbury]

There is not much you can do other than be supportive and let time pass.

[GoGoKokiGo]

People change and fall out of love easily. At least some do. My advice is to to take him out. Do things to take his mind off of her. If she left because she just felt like she had to, there is no reason to bash her face in. You can try telling him that if she's happy without him and he loves her enough then he should be happy, followed by here have a shot of tequila. Anything to take his mind off of her.

[dreamyxo]

You can't do anything.  He has to have time to grieve his own way.  Give him some time to just wallow in it especially if it just happened.  Just be there and lend an ear if he needs to talk.  After a few weeks if he's still not back to normal you can offer to take him out just to try to get his mind off things.  People get over things in their own time. 

[sandiegosurfer]

Just be there and let them talk it out and don't judge them.

[jneff0603]

You know what they say "Time wounds all heels" All you can do is be supportive and if all else fails pull a move from Moonstruck: Slap in the face and say "Snap OUT of it!"

[TVALLO]

There isnt a whole lot for you to do other than let them know you love and care about them and that if they ever need to talk you are always there for them.

[Storm61115]

if this is his first major true love...he will not get over it fast !! NO HE WONT!.. OMG I"M STILL FEELING THE PAIN OF MY BREAK UP 6 yrs ago. I DONT LOVE THE DUDE NE MORE BUT WHEN I SEE HIM IT JUST REMINDS ME OF THE TIMES WITH HIM AND HE IS THE SAME PERSON ONLY GROWN> I DONT UNDERSTAND MYSELF SOMETIMES. I HAVE DREAMS ABOUT HIM ALL THE TIME LIKE MY MIND WANTS TO LIVE IN THAT TIME. I AM WITH A DIFFERENT MAN NOW>>ONE WITHOUT SO MANY FLAWS BUT I STILL DREAM ABOUT MY EX EVEN THOUGH I DONT WANT TO AND IT"S ALWAYS ABOUT ME DATING HIM OR WANTING HIM BACK OR HIM WANTING ME BACK. sometimes i think i need a shrink coz my mind just seems to want to go back to the past all the time. i have to get over this somehow. I HAVE TO ---COZ HE IS MARRIED NOW!!!