God healed me of the psychological trauma of being raped, so I don't feel the pain from it anymore. I have true freedom through being able to forgive the person that hurt me.
Yes, in general it's good if we can forgive those who have hurt us...however, there's a certain degree of hurt where it's understandable not to forgive a person.
I don't think it should be like a bitterness that consumes you and ruins your life if you got raped, beaten, abused, etc...however, it's OKAY to say, "What was done to me wasn't right. I didn't deserve it. That person shouldn't have done it to me, NO EXCUSES." Should we forgive Hitler for killing millions of Jews? No. That's an extreme example, but you get my drift.
By your standards, everyone would go to hell.
By MY standards, no one should go to hell. Good thing this is also reality's standards (no one goes to hell because it is imaginary).
You can tell hell was made up by man when you compare it to the many other religions that invented such a place and by how cruel humanity used to be...have you ever been to a torture museum? That sh*t really happened. Good thing we've evolved to do away with CRUEL AND UNUSUAL PUNISHMENT in the civilized countries...not the Middle East, of course. They're still stoning, hanging, and torturing people over there. IN THE NAME OF ALLAH.
I'm thankful to believe and trust in a God that gives people another chance.
Not once a person is dead, though, right? Do you not think if there really was a hell, millions of people would be mournful of their mistake? Do you not think that billions are crying out to Jesus right now as their spiritual flesh is being scorched: "Please forgive me, Lord. I could not see the truth on Earth, I am forever sorry for rejecting you. Please, Father, this pain is unbearable; I've never been so terrified or tortured...
please!!!!"
Oh wait, GOD CAN'T HEAR THEM.
But of course he is aware that such pleadings are going on, being omniscient and all. I hope it doesn't ruin y'alls party in heaven realizing there are truly repentant people suffering forever. Don't delude yourself into thinking that there wouldn't be!!!