Your mother doesn't hate you. She loves you very much. We all have our issues with our parent's sometimes. We have to remember our parent's come from another generation, that was brought up differently then the new generation. In their days, you never disrespect your parent's ad think you will get away with it. It says in the bible "honor thy mother and father and your day will belong to the will thy god" If you are religous, you will understand what I mean. I know that everyone has their own religous beliefs,mine is baptist. I don't want to say the wrong things to make someone upset. Just try to humble yourself, eventhough you don't agree. Say nothing. Just let them talk, but in your mind your saying I don't agree. You have to curve you anger when speaking to your parent's. Remember, they are always going to be there in your life,when no one will help you. We sometimes believe that they treat us like little kids, it's not that they just are trying to protect us. I just turned 40 today, we live together with my two children. Sometime we clash head, because we are so much alike. But after, we have a disagreement, were talking again. If a person wants to argue, never feed into the situation, just listen. That starts arguments. Try to hold your temper. Then if you want to say something, do it in a calm matter. They are expecting you get angry.when they see that I doesn't bother you is when, they will try to see your side. And realize you've change. It took me along time to discover to treat people with kindness, eventhough they like drama. This may not be a perfect method, but this is how i handle tough situations. Good Luck! And have faith, that everything will be o.k.