healthy marriage

[vonche79]

i want to know how to keep my marriage healthy

[girlswin2]

Well for us we will be married for 15 years this August and we have never had a fight.  The key for us is learn how to talk to each other and not yell.  Yelling is not going to help anything but make you and him more upset not to mention if you have kids makes them upset and its not good.  Trust me I grew up in a house were my parents yelled at each other all the time.  Yes you will have a difference of opinion from time to time but tell your side of thinking and let him tell his and then meet in the middle sometimes you may need to talk alittle more about things to make it work but don't stop talking.  Hope this helps.   

[samiole32]

Well for us we will be married for 15 years this August and we have never had a fight.  The key for us is learn how to talk to each other and not yell.  Yelling is not going to help anything but make you and him more upset not to mention if you have kids makes them upset and its not good.  Trust me I grew up in a house were my parents yelled at each other all the time.  Yes you will have a difference of opinion from time to time but tell your side of thinking and let him tell his and then meet in the middle sometimes you may need to talk alittle more about things to make it work but don't stop talking.  Hope this helps.   

this is great only too add never leave a simple problem to time to solve it time will not solve it you have to face it and try to solve it yourself (Both you and your husband) but if you leave it it will build up and you'll face a bigger and bigger problems.

[alcycharlie]

if argument arise between couple, 1 should learn to cool down and observe the other when it is time to talk. Never insist talking to someone who's on fire or try to settle everything at the moment of argument- this might lead into big fight coz the fire will heat up!

[jordandog]

The communication has been covered - NOT always as easy as it sounds and you have to work at it. From my personal experience, I'll add this:
The other person is not your possession, your child, or your parent. They are your partner and best friend.
If you can remember those 3 things, you'll get through the rocky parts (every marriage has them) and you should have a good life together.

[jkpetite]

been married 10 years this month...we've had our fare share of problems and in fixing them I can tell you that COMMUNICATION is the lifeline of your relationship....both you and your H have to be able to discuss things in an open, non punishing environment. you cannot punish your spouse for their feelings and thoughts...it takes time, maturity, and wisdom, but once you master that skill, you will have what you want - a successful marriage...oh and don't believe anybody who tells you they have a perfect marriage - all marriages have ups and downs - they key is navigating these waters with your partner - your spouse...

[Sweetpea94]

I think everyone wishes their was a book given out after you take your vows, but since there's not we all have to learn the hard way.  I think the best thing which has taken my husband and I 15 years to learn is to always talk.  Don't keep secrets, don't tell lies even little white ones they cause just as much harm always say I love you even if you're really angry at the other person and never go to bed mad at each other.  It just takes a lot of work and a lot of mistakes fights and apologies to figure out what works for your relationship.

[AmyTrivitt]

All marriages are tough no matter what anyone says. The key is good communication, space, understanding of the others needs, wants, ect. A marriage can survive only if you want it to. You have to be fully commited to your partner.

[Tonaybelle]

One good rule I try to go by is not to go to bed angry. Also, doing things together helps keep you close.

[makedoughonline]

Listen to what the other party has to say.

[queenofnines]

One good rule I try to go by is not to go to bed angry.

Actually, that "rule" can backfire in many relationships, keeping you both up for hours arguing.  Better to sleep on it as a way to automatically calm down.

Over time, you can learn the cycle of how your fights go and if you're smart, can avoid engaging in the behaviors that make them hellish.  Or at least not stress about them like it's the end of the world.