WHAT AGE SHOULD A GIRL LOSE HER VIRGINITY?

[queenofnines]

As far as most guys cheating, well it does seem like the majority of them do. Not just from my experiences but other girls too. If you don't think your guy has cheated, 1. He hasn't (good for you) or 2. You just haven't found out yet.

I'm not doubting that a lot of men cheat -- women cheat too.  It is all because of evolutionary reasons; for men, there is the biological pull to spread their seed as much as possible (that's why a lot of them are so "sex-crazed") and for women, if they're not happy with their current man as a provider (especially emotionally), they'll try to look for it somewhere else.  There is also the selfish factor in that people want to have their cake and eat it too - that's why they don't bother to break up first in many cases.

As for your scenario options as to if your mate has cheated or not...#1 has to do with his intelligence and personal values; it has been scientifically demonstrated that the higher a guy's I.Q., the less likely he is to cheat because he recognizes he is more than a *bleep* and also the emotional effect it would have.  There is a difference between a good guy and your average idiot, you just have to become adept at realizing the signs.  #2 Unless you're totally clueless, there are going to be unavoidable signs that something is wrong.

Another thing is most marriages fail after awhile, there are some that work (my parents for instance)

Uh, most relationships in general fail.  And yet no one really asks how many boyfriends you've broken up with, just how many divorces you've had...as if the latter was infinitely worse.  I believe most relationships fail because people are f*&^ing selfish!  Which is also evolutionary, lol.

I will also say there is nothing wrong with a girl sleeping with how ever many guys she wants and should not be judged or labeled.

Yes, it is not "wrong" so long as she is doing it of her own volition...but engaging in such behavior is inevitably going to get her judged and labeled because most people don't think that is the best way to conduct oneself.

Seems like some women have some kind of primal competative rage in them to where they need to call other women sluts or say it is wrong so their chances of getting a mate go up.

Mmm, it's not a "primal rage", it's just there DOES need to exist that balance of men and women who aim to only sleep with people they are in a serious relationship/in love with.  Because at the end of the day, I don't want to be with someone who's slept with dozens of people just because they can.  That does not reflect well on his ability to commit and care for ME ONLY.  Because I'm selfish like that.    And I know most women are selfish like that, too.

[samiole32]

I think 16-18 is very early, Girls shouldn't do it at this age they should be concentrating in their study to have a better future and when they feal mature enough and able to decide if she really want it with a certain man that she really want to be with for the rest of her life then she is welcome to get married and lose it after marriage not before it

[queenofnines]

she is welcome to get married and lose it after marriage not before it

There are extremes here: it is not ideal to sleep around to no end at age 14, but it is also not ideal to have this damaging, prudish stigma that virginity is somehow "sacred" and should be denied until marriage.  You are going to screw up a lot of girls sexually if you tell them that.  Sex is NOT sacred - it's just sex, and that's ridiculous to say someone isn't allowed to have sex unless they are married.  You only believe that because of religion, which is one of the worst places to get your morality.  

You need to assume that people are going to have sex before marriage - because they will- and teach them how to go about it RESPONSIBLY.  There is nothing wrong with having sex at any stage in life - teen, married, not married - so long as the parties involved are responsible about it.

[klkwid]

I think they should have the option to lose their virginity as soon as they understand the possible consequences and can mentally and financially deal with those consequences.  If they do it before that, it just isn't right.

[cubarican210]

I really can't put an age on it. But for me, if I had a daughter I would really want her to wait until she's married. That's my way of thinking. But you know I wouldn't be able to watch over her 24/7. I say good ages would be 18 and up. Especially, if she has the knowledge on how to use birth control, condoms, and of course picking a great partner. Someone that would be there for her when all is done and not leave her the next day. Basically to have a stable relationship with someone before she decides to do it. 

[catherine1will]

I think a girl or guy should wait until they find that special some one to be with but only if they love each other enough to do so and if they feel comfortable

[jldillon]

I think that 17 or so is what I would be prepared for, but each child is different and we keep the subject open so that when she decides it is her time she will feel comfortable asking about VDs and birth control.  Why oh why don't they come with manuals?

[Graeth]

She shouldn't wait for an age to tell her when. But should wait until she finds the right person.

[cubarican210]

This is the 20th century and a lot of parent's don't seem to care about the sexual activites that their children are involved in. The parent's are more interested in the almighty dollar, keeping up with the Jones, or  worried about where to get their next fix at.

Gee maybe if the government would think about the young people of today then their wouldn't be so many welfare cases tomorrow.

It's the 21st century and not if you have parents like mine. They were really strict and the key is that they talked to us about sex at an early age before school started teaching us about it. Of course some good morals and leading by example. I do agree some parents don't care but that doesn't mean the child should be like their parent. I've seen lots of kids that teach their parents a lesson in morality. There is still hope. As humans we tend to focus on all the bad things happening in the world but there are really great things happening too. The bad things are just more appealing to us because it's in our human nature.

[Darkflame123]

WHENEVER SHE IS READY AND IN LOVE!!!!!

[sammywantsya]

its up to her to choose not you that is indeed a fact

but in all opinions we have our own faults and this is up to the
parents to lead there children in the right direction.
leading them with full knowledge with sex can let them be aware of there body and feelings in the future

[halokitty]

Whenever you feel ready I would wait until you are in a serious relationship, you want to be comfortable with the guy and it will mean alot more to you if you wait until you have found someone to be there for you emotionally. Make sure to check out birth control when you are ready, and still use a condom because a STD that don't go away is WAY worse that having a kid. I know lots of people that had unprotected sex because they were on birth control and most of them have herpes now

[briannajeanxo]

i was 14 like a week before i turned 15, i should have waited until i was 18. i regret it. but it was at least with someone i had been "going out with" since i was 10.

[PDMeggers]

I think that depends on her cultural beliefs, as well as how intellectually mature she is.   

[giang11]

Many men does not want their woman to loose their virginity to anyone else other than he. The man that i'm talking about is their husband. My advise is, any girl should not loose their virginity too early because they are too young to know what true love is, and to know who they will marry. So girls should loose their virginity around the age of 20.