Does anyone else feel uneasy when they connect with former classmates?

[pmagalei]

Sometimes it is hard to do that especially if they have a different agenda as to why they want to meet. I would say if you are married and have kids, then it would be good to take your  whole family to meet them or if you are still single but have children, then take your children to meet them. After all, they shouldn't be judgemental  if they are your real friends from school.

[heypeg]

Depends on who the person is.

[reiddb]

I guess I could maybe....I just think people are where they are and WHO CARES! I just ENJOY hearing about them and their life! I guess as long as they don't just want to sit there and complain about it all....I don't care what they drive! Have fun and enjoy yourself! None of that stuff matters!!!

[kjstrukel]

I have been out of HS for nearly 50 years and find that the people that were "out of my league" back in 1972 are more like me than I would have ever imagined.  The labels from school have disappeared and we are just friends now.  Facebook has really helped foster those relationships.

[Catwomanj10]

June 1, 2016

Hello to everyone out there in Fusion Cash World:

I was inside the "grocery store" one day doing my "banking" and I was just "standing there" minding my own business, when all of a sudden,..........this  ===s woman who was standing "in line." spoke up and said, "Don't I know you from somewhere?"  And, I looked at her, and said, "No, I don't think we know each other!"
"Who are you?"  and then she got really excited and her face lit up and she said, "I know who you are!"
"You're Susan and we went to high school together!"    And, I responded, "Oh really?"  "Well, what's your name?"  Because the lady that I was looking at did not resemble anyone I had every known in high school
and she replied, "Rosie Garcia."

And, quite frankly< I was shocked to see this woman in front of me at the supermarket while we both took care of our "banking business" because, unfortunately, Rosie had gained a "lot of weight" over the years!

And, I thought, "Wow! how did you get so fat!"  "This is awful!"  "You used to be so skinny in high school what happened?"

And, anyways, she just kept right on talking and we engaged in a short conversation and she talked about her marriage and her job, and even about her daughter graduating from college who was studying to become a teacher.

So, I congratulated her and told her to tell her daughter "Congratulations on graduating from college and becoming a teacher, that's great!"

And, anyways,..........the part that made me feel "uncomfortable" with talking with "Rosie" is that I never really "cared about her"  only because in high school, she always came across to me as "bragging" or "trying to sound more important than she was!" 

It was more her "attitude" that caused me to feel the way that I did about her.

I just do not like ones who "brag on themselves" or "other people."

And, the other part that made me feel like I was back in "high school" with Rosie and whatever is that she kept on "bragging about her life.......and how she works for the school district, and how her daughter was graduating from college and oh Susan what is it that you do?"

In other words, she was not only "bragging" as she did in high school, but she was also being "nosy" with me when she tried getting information out of me and asking me all kinds of questions.

The bottom line is that we did not hand out in high school.  We belonged to a club in high school, but we were not friends!

So, for me, as far as this "Rosie" is concerned,    I would not want to "hang out" with her because, as far as, I am concerned,  we really do not have anything in common!

And,  as for driving cars,   my car got stolen from off of our property and with God's help I got it back, but I have not driven my car as much as I could.  Because my car no longer has a radio,  or air conditioning, or even a horn to honk anymore.  And, my passenger's window does not roll down anymore,  Because the thieves who stole my car took all of those accessories out of my car.

So, what I am trying to say is, "If you drive a seventeen year old car, that is nothing to get embarrassed about or even feel bad about."  I mean, as long as, you are able to drive it,......and it gets you from point A to point B"  and it's safe to drive and, of course, you have insurance on it along with your driver's license (and I'm not saying you don't(  then, yeah, enjoy your car and enjoy driving it.

And,if you have things in common with this person in high school and this person treats you well, then yeah go for it and (if you have the time) then yeah go and get together with him or her.

It might be fun!  Ok, well I hope this has helped you out.

Have a nice evening.  Bye for now!

[sherryinutah]

Don't allow yourself to feel obligated to connect with that person if you're not excited about doing so.  When you're older (like me) you learn that it doesn't matter what other people think. 

You also learn not to "take on" activities unless it all feels right.  Good luck with whatever you decide.   

[alaskakaren]

I loved facebook for 3 months and connected with nearly everyone I've ever known..I deactivate now...I want to live in the present...here and now.

[oldbuddy]

Mo more so than if I meet a total stranger and since I graduated in 1957 that's what they would be. I love meeting new people, so I would be all for it.

[PGS28]

Instead of being ashamed of what you don't have, focus on what you do have.  You have a car. You're an active mother.  You're a mother- which bears repeating bc it is truly a blessing that some people don't realize until they connect with those who can't have children. 

[PGS28]

People tend to put on a façade online, how do you know that the former classmate has it all together? How do you know there's not something in your life they wish they had?