need advice

[aggie49]

one of my friends is starting a affair and asked me what would i do i told her she either stop or leave her husband i do not believe in cheating if you don't want to be with someone what is the sense of staying

[hitch0403]

If she could cheat on her hubby what makes you think your advice is valid to her?

[ancmetro]

  There are a lot of emotionally disabled people in this world!

[demaina]

Yeah, she's probably not going to want to listen to what you have to say.  I agree that if she's not happy that she needs to leave her husband or she needs to stop and work on this with her husband.

[kcetna]

I don't believe in cheating. She must not be happy with her husband. I have a friend that cheated on her husband and she got caught. Things got very ugly after that and she lost everything even her kids. I think that your friend is going to do what she wants, so she probably won't listen to your advice.

[bremer51]

Committing adultery breaks the marriage.  If she's having an affair she has already destroyed the relationship with her husband. She needs to be up front with him.

[hicaniplay]

Wow. I'm surprised she told you. Or maybe it's just from tv that I assume cheaters keep that stuff quiet. Uhm, she must think of you as a very trusted friend. You gave good advice. I hope everything works out for you and your friend and you don't get pulled into too much drama.

[haimsterette]

I agree with your advice. I guess it kind of depends also on if this is also an emotional affair or just a sexual one. If she's in love with the person she's cheating with, that's extra complicated in my opinion. If she's not satisfied in her marriage sexually and thus seeking that satisfaction elsewhere, she should stop and maybe pursue a talk with her husband about her needs. Just my thoughts. 

[patycake56]

I just don't believe in cheating either stay with the 1 your with or get a divorce if you want to run around

[bigedshult]

if she dose that how can u trust her to do something that u think is good for her

[natashaspy]

I agree....if you're unhappy enough to want to cheat then you're obviously too unhappy to stay in the relationship that you're in.

[linderlizzie]

Your friend will just have to find out the hard way what a bad idea it is. 

Once you've crossed the line, there's no going back. Nothing you say will matter. 

[melissaotto1982]

I wouldnt say anything. Looks like shes looking for some one she can later blame when it doesnt go the way she expected!

[kroberts13]

yep i agree with melissaotto1982 and guess you will be the blame your friendship with her will be over and her husband will have DIVORCE papers in the works (just saying becareful what you do.)

[Tresbn00]

I am right there with you. If the relationship is at the point where someone feels that they need to seek solace in the arms of another it is time to end the relationship. If the other spouse catches on there will be no relationship because once trust is gone there is no relationship.  I have seen people have affairs and then go back to the person that they originally cheated on. They may think that everything is all right but the cheater will probably compensate with excess apologies when they are late.  The cheatee is going to be wondering if they are being cheated upon again. If you are talking to your friend I would point out that the dating world is not that great and that they will have to become accustomed to a new mate's bad habits.