How Do You Deal With Negative Family?

[shelly927]

well when dealing with family members that are negative minded, all you can do is pray and, have postive talks with them, get them involed  in things that are interesting and make it a family thing and, try to talk about thing to get there mind off the negative, keep the faith and GOD will make a way.  bless you and your family.

[dreamyxo]

Stay away.  If you want a relationship with your uncle do so his girlfriend isn't related to you so you don't have to have anything to do with her.

[PGS28]

rpse1927 I understand

mardukblood2009

janel217 Sometimes you can't understand a situation until you've experienced it.

sanglee Touche'

[PGS28]

Dynamite2013 That's how I'm hoping it will play out. I'll give one last attempt at bonding when everyone matures but who knows when that could be and I'm relocating out of state next year.  And it's extra hard when people pretend to not understand where you are coming from or conveniently forget the things they have done but you know what, I'll stick to the plan of giving a minimal effort in a few years.  But for now, I feel it's best to keep distance.  Since I've been doing that now all of a sudden they care about how long it's been since they've seen me and my kids but it feels like they just want to see me to judge my weight, appearance, etc. Oh well, what will be will be   Congrats on your family coming together again, that's wonderful!!

[PGS28]

BlackSheepNY  I laughed when you said RUN! but in all seriousness you are so right, misery does love company but once you recognize someone's game plan you are better equipped to come out the victor and not let their words get to you.  I just stay away as part of my self love devotion- why place myself in a situation I KNOW is going to be uncomfortable or cause conflict?  Thanks for your input

[alaskakaren]

try to avoid them...and stay positive.

[jcalexis]

It's very simple! stay away from them. Don't invite in your house.

[PGS28]

shelly927 Thanks

dreamyxo  Good point

alaskakaren Thanks!

[LenoraMinogue]

I think you're doing the right thing. You can only do so much.