Pop

[samsbigdream]

Today, one year ago, was the last day of my Pop's life. He died in an accident early on the 28th. He was not my birth father, but he was my only dad, my Pop Pop. The only man in 40 years to be a father to me. I am happy I was with him and many other family members on that day.

I love him and miss him very much and I just want to remind everyone to make sure that those you love know how you feel. Don't let petty arguments get in the way! If the relationship, particularly with a family member, isn't what you want it to be, then take the time and put forth the effort to change it. Don't wait for the other person! It may never happen. Spend the time you have with those you love now, because tomorrow may be too late.

[Sendmicheck]

I am sorry to heard of your loss.  Thank you for the wonderful words of encouragement.  I can relate to your loss of your pop.   Not long ago, I lost my sisters and I have no regret because I did spend quality time with them.

[snowwmann5]

So sorry to hear that. I'm sure he is watching you from above and there to help you in anyway he can.

[samsbigdream]

I thank you both for your sympathetic words. They warm my heart on a day like this. Much appreciation.

[BlackSheepNY]

Sam, I am so very sorry for your loss.  Your post brought tears to my eyes because it brought back memories of my own Father.  What you said is so very true and I'm grateful for the reminder.  With life what it is these days, we sometimes forget about those around us in the here and now.  Thank you, Sam, and God bless.

[samsbigdream]

Thank you BlackSheepNY. I hope this post brought back some of the most wonderful memories for you and put a smile on your face. And I hope that it does the same for other readers whether they choose to post or not.

[kamarae897]

He will always be with you as long as you keep your memories alive.

[samsbigdream]

He will always be with you as long as you keep your memories alive.

Thank you kamarae897. I have a really crappy memory. I forget things, not just groceries and to-do lists, but things that happened. It probably happens to a lot of people, but it worries me sometimes. I don't want to forget things about pop.

My mom and I were talking about pop a couple weeks after the accident and she told me about when I slipped a note under his windshield wiper on his truck to set up a surprise date. It was about 18 years ago, when they started dating. I had forgotten most of what happened. It was such a wonderful story about how Pop didn't know who was going to meet him at the bar. How nervous he was. It made us both cry, but it also made us smile. I miss him.

[AXELUnholy]

I'm sorry for your loss, but I know how you feel. I just lost my grandmother back in April, and for me, it wasn't the loss that hurt me. It was the fact that she lived right next door, and I could have gone and seen her every day but I always put it off til "tomorrow". Well, April 3rd, tomorrow never came for her, and I never got to say goodbye, or tell her that I love her before she passed because it just happened so suddenly. She was fine one day, then sick the next, and gone. So I'm stuck with all sorts of regrets. I'm glad you at least got to spend time with your Pop before he passed, and again, I'm sorry for your loss. I hope things are well for you and yours.

[timvolley]

im am sorry for your loss and i hope God gives you the strength to carry on. It is good that you have fond memories of your dad.

[samsbigdream]

I'm sorry for your loss, but I know how you feel. I just lost my grandmother back in April, and for me, it wasn't the loss that hurt me. It was the fact that she lived right next door, and I could have gone and seen her every day but I always put it off til "tomorrow". Well, April 3rd, tomorrow never came for her, and I never got to say goodbye, or tell her that I love her before she passed because it just happened so suddenly. She was fine one day, then sick the next, and gone. So I'm stuck with all sorts of regrets. I'm glad you at least got to spend time with your Pop before he passed, and again, I'm sorry for your loss. I hope things are well for you and yours.

Thank you both for your words of kindness. And AXELUnholy, I am sorry for your loss. I can understand how that can happen. Like BlackSheepNY said, "With life what it is these days, we sometimes forget about those around us in the here and now." I believe that your grandmother is still with you. Maybe she is disappointed with how things went, but, like any grandmother, I'm sure she forgives you. And I'm sure she loves you.