I did something really horrible

[mrisha]

No one is worth compromising your integrity and scruples.  Okay, you knew he only wanted you for one thing, why did you go back for a second helping of humiliation?  Start hanging elsewhere, doing different things to get your self esteem back.  Learn from this and never be submissive to anyone-you are giving them the power to treat you anyway they please.

[anotherlaujgirl]

I just want to say thank you to you all.


Right now it feels impossible, but i do know it's far from impossible.

I will be okay someday, and this will be a reason to finding myself again.

-God Bless.

[ptfunds]

Hi anotherlaujgirl.  I left you a response a few weeks ago and saw your message today.  I hope you've used the past few weeks to put this behind you one day at a time and are starting to see that there is life after bad situations.  I'm sending positive thoughts and encouragement to you as I'm writing this post.  Take care of yourself. And remember even a bad situation is a good example of what you don't want in your life.  You're on the right track.  Hang in there!

[tantricia44]

anotherlaujgirl~ You didn't do anything wrong if you got back w/him & had relations that both of you agreed on. Good for you dating during your teens now a days we hear about 9 & 10 year old kids having sexual relations!If he forced or pressured you after you told him no, then that going to far & whatever feelings you have for him you should report the jerk for rape! Sometimes the only thing you can do not fall for his trap is to not associate with him & get as far away as you can from his sight.

Here's some good advice that I've tested & the outcome was very positive.Subconsciously we,know what type of person we're ment to be with.Only one problem is consciously,we tend to pick guys that is totally not for us.Guys that are the bad boy type attracts us& usually when we're w/the jerk our brains just shuts down or stop working all together!The last time I've been hurt by my *bleep* ex, I swore that I'm giving up men because you can never find the good ones or they're already married. So, in my goal not to look for mr. right & avoided all activities that would expose me to the male jackasses;one day,I literally tripped over my future husband!Literally! He was the opposite of everyone of those jerks I've dated!When you're with the one that's your soul mate you become a better person.What's more wonderful than having your soul mate,best friend, & lover all in one package!Sadly, my Soul mate passed away 2009 for a while I left like I've died too but because he was in my life, I've learned to be a kind & loving person & that being nice doesn't make you a weakling, or a door mate; just a much better human being!

So, give it a try, don't look for mr. right or mr. whatever, you never know, when you get too busy with your life & goals;you might just literally trip over "The one that is the other half of your soul!" Good lucky sweetie!

[dwggs]

The first thing you must do is to Forgive Yourself.

We are all human and make mistakes.
The key to making mistakes is that we learn from them.

It is time for you to move on with your life and do not dwell
on the past.  You cannot change what has already happened
but have the opportunity to change what comes in the future.

[anotherlaujgirl]

Hi anotherlaujgirl.  I left you a response a few weeks ago and saw your message today.  I hope you've used the past few weeks to put this behind you one day at a time and are starting to see that there is life after bad situations.  I'm sending positive thoughts and encouragement to you as I'm writing this post.  Take care of yourself. And remember even a bad situation is a good example of what you don't want in your life.  You're on the right track.  Hang in there!

Thankyou : )

[anotherlaujgirl]

anotherlaujgirl~ You didn't do anything wrong if you got back w/him & had relations that both of you agreed on. Good for you dating during your teens now a days we hear about 9 & 10 year old kids having sexual relations!If he forced or pressured you after you told him no, then that going to far & whatever feelings you have for him you should report the jerk for rape! Sometimes the only thing you can do not fall for his trap is to not associate with him & get as far away as you can from his sight.

Here's some good advice that I've tested & the outcome was very positive.Subconsciously we,know what type of person we're ment to be with.Only one problem is consciously,we tend to pick guys that is totally not for us.Guys that are the bad boy type attracts us& usually when we're w/the jerk our brains just shuts down or stop working all together!The last time I've been hurt by my *bleep* ex, I swore that I'm giving up men because you can never find the good ones or they're already married. So, in my goal not to look for mr. right & avoided all activities that would expose me to the male jackasses;one day,I literally tripped over my future husband!Literally! He was the opposite of everyone of those jerks I've dated!When you're with the one that's your soul mate you become a better person.What's more wonderful than having your soul mate,best friend, & lover all in one package!Sadly, my Soul mate passed away 2009 for a while I left like I've died too but because he was in my life, I've learned to be a kind & loving person & that being nice doesn't make you a weakling, or a door mate; just a much better human being!

So, give it a try, don't look for mr. right or mr. whatever, you never know, when you get too busy with your life & goals;you might just literally trip over "The one that is the other half of your soul!" Good lucky sweetie!

Thank you so much. It's very encouraging.

[anotherlaujgirl]

I just want to say THank you to everyone.

It's very much appreciated.

[handllucas]

Life is full of lessons.Some of them are easy and some are hard.
We tend to learn and remember more from the harder ones.

[plennis]

Hey, you realized it was stupid, dumb etc.  So now pick yourself up, take the next step away from that situation.  You've been there done that, so if something like this starts to happen again...ASK YOURSELF is this really what I want where I want to be again?    You are too good  to settle for less than the best. You need to keep telling yourself that.                             

[anotherlaujgirl]

Hey, you realized it was stupid, dumb etc.  So now pick yourself up, take the next step away from that situation.  You've been there done that, so if something like this starts to happen again...ASK YOURSELF is this really what I want where I want to be again?    You are too good  to settle for less than the best. You need to keep telling yourself that.                             

Thanks.

[demaina]

Ok, I'm an probably the wrong person to take advice from, since my longest relationship was two dates, but here goes nothing.

Don't be too hard on yourself about this.  We all want to find someone who will be there for us and love us for our flaws.  Generally, people turn piece of themselves off and on depending on who they are with.  You might not make a certain joke around strangers cause they might take it wrong.  Or you laugh at something that isn't all that funny to you cause the other person finds it hilarious and you don't want to hurt their feelings.

It can take time to find your inner strength.  Most of the time I'm fine being alone and then I have a day when everything goes wrong, and I just want to curl into a ball and cry, and my brain has to points out, "and you still don't have a boyfriend."  It's going to happen.  You are going to have moments when you break down and something foolish happens.

My friend lost her grandma a few months ago.  About a month before that happened, her grandma started getting sick and they started talking about how she might die (this was their first death).  Around that time, she got back together with a boy she had been dating a while back.  The last time they were dating, he broke up with her over a text.  He broke up with her again after her grandma died over the phone.  And she's dating him again now.  So, don't feel bad.  You aren't the first person to want to have someone so badly you'd overlook things.  It's not cause you are stupid or naive, it's just cause you're looking for love in the wrong place.

The best thing you can do for yourself is figure out what type of person you want to be and what type of relationship/person you are looking for.  If anything, get a piece of paper out and write it down so you don't forget.  You've already taken a step and realized you don't want to be submissive, so write it down.  Then, as you date, continue your list.  If a guy does something you don't like, write it down.  If you see a part of you that you like, write it down. 

My other advice is don't be afraid of being alone.  Many of my friends jump from relationship to relationship and they tend to either be with a guy they don't get along with or find a guy that's like the one who just broke their heart.  I don't know if they are afraid to be alone or not, but they don't give themselves enough time between boyfriends to look at the relationship and learn from it (at least, I don't think a month is enough time).  To me, it seems that people tend to find the person they fit with when they aren't looking cause they aren't trying to attract attention, they are just being him/herself.

I don't know what life has in store for you, but don't let one moment ruin the rest of them.  Be upset, it's completely alright.  No one wants to be hurt.  And once you're ready, move on from this and enjoy your life.

[anotherlaujgirl]

Thank You. Means alot.