Please Help

[annettefayeroach]

Can any tell me how one parent can turn their back on their child? Parents get divorced but does that mean that one parent gets to turn away form their kids? My kids are hurting and I can't help them. It has been four years, my daughter tries to act tough and like it doesn't bother her but I can tell by the things she says
 that she is still hurting really bad. She turned 17 Friday and her father didn't even call her.  My son is 18 and started college this year and he has started to see his father in a different light. He too is hurting and i don't know what to do. Any advice from anybody? This is tearing me up. I don'y like seeing my kids hurting. Thanks for letting me vent.

[krissi79]

Honey all you can do is ask GOD TO show your ex what he is missing out on. If your kids are up to it id have them in councling or a teen support group. My son is 12 and has never met his dad. I was blessed with a hubby who raised him since he was 18 months. My sons ask questions about his dad but he has decided this is not the time to call or meet him. i'll pray for your family..

[samrhett2]

It is very sad.  My son's father died two years ago.  He stopped coming for visits with my son when he was 2.  A few years later he wanted to start coming to my house again to see him.  He admitted that he had been on drugs and that is why he stopped coming around the first time.  Because of that admission and his lifestyle I told him he was not allowed around the house and he never had any court ordered visitation.  Then he died a few years ago under suspicious circumstances.  I think drug-related.  It is very sad, but I really feel my decision was best.

I do not know why some adults act like idiots but they do.  Make sure you always tell your kids that it is NOT their fault.

[marcar1008]

I pray that God protects and guide you and your children. Your children need to feel they are loved. I know it is hard to ask, but I would understand they would be negative too.... have you tried church? God is for REAL and he can change things we can't. Have your children busy and active in sports or something to just get bad memories off their heads. I pray that nothing bad happens, then dad will show up when it is too late. God bless, take care and SMILE  God loves you and he will NEVER leave you alone, just have FAITH in him.

[blondie71]

Can any tell me how one parent can turn their back on their child? Parents get divorced but does that mean that one parent gets to turn away form their kids? My kids are hurting and I can't help them. It has been four years, my daughter tries to act tough and like it doesn't bother her but I can tell by the things she says
 that she is still hurting really bad. She turned 17 Friday and her father didn't even call her.  My son is 18 and started college this year and he has started to see his father in a different light. He too is hurting and i don't know what to do. Any advice from anybody? This is tearing me up. I don'y like seeing my kids hurting. Thanks for letting me vent.

I can't tell you what to do but my father hasn't been in my life since I was about 10 and as an adult I may have seen him twice.  I have talked to him through facebook but he doesn't stay on very long.  He use to call me once a year on my birthday but this last year he posted on my wall which I didn't find for weeks later and that hurts I looked forward to that every year and now he doesnt even do that.  I don't think there is anything you can do for your kids my mom couldn't do anything for us either.

[pjlicari17]

I grew up without a father.  He died when I was six.  However, my MOTHER was always there for me and I think I turned out OK!  There are things that I missed out on, but I had a STRONG mother (still do!) 

Be there for them, and when they get older and understand better, they will see the truth!

[annettefayeroach]

Thank you one and all.

[sherryfan]

I'm so sorry to hear that. When parents divorce those innocent and vulnerable children will always be the one suffer, I know it is not easy, but don't give up, give the children more support and love as much as you can, life fill with challenge. Eventually, every one will get old and just realized what they are doing now by not to regret forever. The most children afraid is to be neglected and the God is always looking at us.

[johnvon23]

annettefayeroach.... 2 words.... be strong..... I look so high up to you by managing your kids by yourself.... i feeln bad for your kids but i'm sure everything will be alright. Divorce is really devastating and just be positive in life. What doesn't kill us will make us stronger.....

[ptfunds]

I'm so sorry to hear about the situation for your children and I know it's hard for you to watch it.  However, the only relationship you can do anything about is the one you are having with them and that one sounds good!  The experiences they are having now will set the tone for what is important for them later. If they chose to have children they will probably always be present in their lives whether their marriages last or not.  It's hard when divorce happens and the parents don't say friends as the kind of conversations you might be having with your ex now don't happen.  Of course, sometimes divorce happens because you can't have those kinds of conversations.  It sounds like this might be the case for you.  Good luck. I know you'll get lots of good energy and support from the forum members!

[awette26]

i dont think there is anything you can do. if he doesnt want to see his children thats his lost and he doeasnt deserve them and maybe just try to explain that to your kids. good luck thaugh