confused and dissappointed

[dmahoney]

Just want to thank you all again.

[Tresbn00]

Confused about how I was going to leave my family better off, disappointed with how inadequately I had prepared for disaster in my life, and somewhat disgusted that I took my needs out of the equation.  I have worked hard all of my life and I have transferred the glee that would normally come form a good paycheck or a solid bonus for being ecstatic about the accomplishements of others.  I watch how my family has taken advantage of this and walks all over me in pursuit of gratifying their needs while I continue to work my rear end off.  Books and internet seem to be my only outlet, for myself, and my family gets down on me for that too!

[kjstrukel]

Amen, Tresbn00.  I, too, have been used (and abused) by some family members.  Thankfully, I have good friends and close family who have jumped in to support me while I suffer through this.  My thanks, too, to all the members who posted positive responses!  I thank God I found FusionCash. not so much for the $$ but for the sense of community!

[jarheadwife04]

Try doing something new with someone you love, it just may help you to reconnect and remind you of why you fell in love with that person to begin with.

[vgonzales1]

This too shall pass…

[dmahoney]

I feel for the both of you (kjstrukel and Tresbn00) I somewhat understand, only I am medically unable to work, so I am home alone all day and have few friends anymore. All my friends still work and my husband seems to be mad at the fact that I can not work, So here I am. Hopefully things will get better for us all.

[dell9031]

Wherever you go, there you are.  Attitude change.  It depends on how you view things in life.  Change your friends or change your job.  Either way...there you are.  I check yourself before I started trying to fix things.

[raven1114]

I think everyone has been there at some point. All you can do is deal with it. That means either learn to accept it or learn to change it. I was feeling that way a few months ago. Just unhappy with the home situation and lack of money. I decided to go back to school. I'm now taking college courses at the community college to work towards a degree in business.

[mperez7372]

Yep!  In order to function, I had to set very basic goals I wanted to accomplish every day.  I had 4 areas to accomplish, in whatever way I wanted for the day, no matter how big or how small I did some thing:
 1.)  for my finances - it could be as simple as making $1 on FC, posting a personal item to sell, etc
 2.)  for my house-  on a good day, I would clean out a drawer or clean the freezer, on a not so good day, it could be washing all the dishes
 3.)  for my child-  I wanted to make a conscious effort to spend time doing something fun with my toddler.  At a time when life is hard, I always want him to know there is room for happiness and smiles
  4.)  for myself-  it could be anything from a 10 minute nap, watching a show I wanted to, reading a book, exercising, painting my nails... whatever!
These items were small enough, but I could make them big enough to accomplish more if I felt up to it.  I never out any pressure on myself to do more than these 4 things until I felt a little better.  I hope it helps and you feel better soon!  Life is hard, but every day, there was a best part of the day!  (My son and I say our favorite part of the day every night at prayers.  It is unbelievable that there is always something that was a favorite, even if it was that it is over until tomorrow!)

[ghunter]

Please pray and keep trustng in the Lord.

[falcon9]

Please pray and keep trustng in the Lord.

Conversely, engaging in more viable options, (as some other posters have suggested), would be more useful.

[kittenkagome]

I feel that way most days. I am always regretting what I didn't get accomplished. When I do have the opportunity to do some of these things, I don't feel well or I'm tired, or I doubt I can do what I wanted. I look at others and see how far they have gotten in their lives and I look at mine and just get depressed. Some days I don't want to get out of bed. Sorry, I should probably say something helpful, but just know that you are not alone. I guess what you can try to do is set aside some time to treat yourself. If that doesn't work, go out of your way to do something for someone else. That usually helps me feel a little better, because then you know that because of what you did, someone else could benefit. Always surround yourself with positive people, too. Not fake ones, but people you know actually care about you. At least you have that assurance that they will do and say what is best for you. Concentrate on those things, and you should get through it.