What does it mean when

[cateyes1]

My BF at night likes being on the computer so I go to bed after a long day. once in a while I will ask him to come and talk with me before I go to sleep. his comment is,"why do I have to entertain you".....is there anything wrong with wanting to chat about the day before I go to sleep? and "ENTERTAINE ME" how would you take that?...maybe its just me 

[kingozzy]

it seems to me he enjoys his time on the computer more than with you, not sure what he is doin on there.  If you want to know, just ask him, hopefully he is honest with you

[acurtsinger2]

tell him to entertain himself for the next couple weeks(if you know what I mean) and maybe he'll be more sensitive the next time you ask for a little bit of his time

[samrhett2]

It sounds as though he feels he is doing you a favor by having a conversation.  I know that many men don't understand most women's need for meaningful communication.  It makes us feel connected in a way that men don't seem to need.  I would try (one time) to explain it to him that way.  If he is unresponsive to your explanation and makes no attempt to try to be aware of your feelings then I would walk away.  Don't expect someone who can't care about what others want to change.  People either have a desire to please the ones they love or they don't.  I won't try to make someone be caring who isn't.  It is a waste of time.

[remediagirl]

   He sounds like a very insensitive person!

[kapeh12]

It's hard to see the full picture of what's going on with the little piece you provided - it could just be a timing issue.  It sounds like your BF frequently gets on the computer and it was during this time you asked him to chat.  Maybe this was his "relaxation" or "down" time and he felt you were robbing him of that.  Would he be open to chatting while he was at the computer - if you just need someone to talk to and not really care if they're listening, maybe that could be an option.  Or find a time to ask him to chat when he's not on the computer.  Or work out a compromise sometime when he has your full attention (which sounds like avoiding times when he's on the computer).

I don't see anything wrong with wanting to chat, however, sometimes if a guy is in a habit and you catch him off guard with a request like this, you may not get the reaction you were hoping for.  Just something to be aware of and not take too personally at first.  Could just be another compromise to work out. 

If after you have a time to discuss this, and he's still not responsive - then you may want to consider if he's really the one for you to stick with...

Good luck.

[mjdoug03]

OMG!  What a boy.  Punch him in his face and make him listen!