Would you tell?

[ladycasshmere]

If you had a friend who just recently gotten married and you discovered their spouse cheating on them with someone else. Would you tell or let them find out for themselves?  :-

[mayleen63]

If you had a friend who just recently gotten married and you discovered their spouse cheating on them with someone else. Would you tell or let them find out for themselves?  :-

it all depends the personality of your friend and how close the relation is but most of the time you shouldnt get in the way. It might turn out ugly for you. An option would be helping your friend finding out not directly, pretending that you don't know. i hope this helps

[trujillo33]

I think I would tell my friend about her spouse cheating! If she gets mad at u for telling her, she doesnt deserve a friend that cares for her! Beside if her husband cheated on her, most likely its going to happen again!

[mwolfe]

i'm not sure what i would do. if this person is your friend, you wouldn't want to hurt her by telling her. on the other hand, you wouldn't want to betray her trust by not telling her. that's a tough call to make.

[investyourtimehere]

I think I would tell my friend about her spouse cheating.  That's what true friends are for.

[drainman49]

Having seen many marriages break down and one or even both parties were cheating, I would make absolutely sure of my facts and then tell my friend (as long as I knew that my friend could handle it. I have been married for 35 years and even when my wife and I we apart (due to my military service) I had no doubt of her self control and she had no doubt of mine. Early cheating in a marriage usually means that the person cheating wasn't ready for the commitment to the vows.

[LIZETHZ7304]

If you had a friend who just recently gotten married and you discovered their spouse cheating on them with someone else. Would you tell or let them find out for themselves?  :-

Well, Turn the question around on yourself. Would you like to someone to tell YOU if YOUR husband was cheating on them? I was very "happy" when they told me. Heres the time to show your friend you really are their friend. GOod Luck.

[BK_Adores_Chase]

OOO - tough one!  I think if my husband was cheating on me I'd like to know.  Maybe you can somehow anonymously tell her so you don't get involved too much!

[dreamyxo]

My coworker is going through the same thing.  Her friends husband is cheating on her friend.  My coworkers husband is friends with her friends husband and the friends husband told my coworker's husband that he is cheating on my coworkers friend.  Her husband said he also saw his friend coming out of a hotel.  My coworker said she is not getting in the middle of it.  The friend might have an idea the husband is cheating. 

I said if it were me I'd want to know but my coworker said she isn't getting in the middle of it because you never know how someone will act and the friend might turn against her because she was the one to tell her.  Her reasoning makes sense to me sometimes it's better to stay out of other people's business. 

[thetotalfool]

I would tell.  One of my friends was engaged to man who cheated with an HIV positive woman, and all his family knew, but didn't say anything to her.  She was incredibly lucky to not get the disease.  You can imagine how she felt towards his family.

[paleskin04]

depends how close i am with them, if it's my mailman or something i think that would be called crossing the line bahaha!

[lilblondiemjd]

The problem with this is, when many people are blinded by love, if anyone brings up that their partner has been unfaithful, they may turn a blind eye, deny it, and become angry towards you. Sometimes it is best to stay out of it.

[lynnc35]

Yes, I would tell. the person has a right to know.

[Annella]

I would definitely inform my friend.  That old adage about "what people don't know don't hurt them", is baloney! Even though people think they don't know, deep inside they do.  Especially in a marriage.  I would want to know.

True Story:  A man of my friend's was cheating on his wife.  He made a LOT of money in the oil fields.  He was so sneaky that she could never catch him (or so he thought).  He wanted her to divorce him, but not give her a settlement at all.  She hired one of the best Private Investigators in the state of Alaska.

He thought he was so smart as he was cheating with a woman in another state.  One morning as they were leaving her house, outside was his wife, her attorney, her 2 sisters, and the PI, all sitting in the back of a parked pickup truck out front eating sandwiches, with a video camera rolling.  He bled some substantial money over that one.