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[afroach]

Can someone please tell me when life got so hard?
Been divorced now going on two years. But I am still held at a higher standard than sorry ex  (by my kids). When will it stop ? When will I stop hearing well daddy said this and daddy said that but then he did something else. Are you going to lie to us to? I am the one that has been there the whole time not him.
 Thanks for letting me vent. I don't want to hurt my kids so I try to keep it all in but it has to come out sometime.
     Annette

[marcar1008]

Well if daddy said this, then let daddy take care of it. Teach your children that when they are with you, they go by your rules. When they are with daddy, they go by daddy's rules.

Remember at this time, your children need all the love they can have. Just make sure they don't get spoiled. It is hard on children to go through this. Keep an eye on their school grades if they go to school. Make sure they get a small reward for good grades. Maybe an extra hour with daddy (if that is what they want), maybe go to the movies, maybe rent a movie. Tell them they are special because they don't need daddy 24 hrs. a day like other children. Tell them they are big and have the responsibility to take care of mommy and make her feel proud of them. Children always like to hear they are big.

The most important thing here is to have faith things will get better and beleive that you are not alone. GOD IS WITH YOU AND GOD LOVES YOU !  BLESSING ! !

[tigerlilly01]

you will be happy that you didn't trash talk daddy.  My ex is a looser and he treated us very badly and still does NOTHING for my son.  He is grown now but to this day defends his father and although I sacrifice to do things for him and his family and his father does nothing .... he always has an excuse.  It is best to do the BEST you can ... it will make you feel good about yourself.  In time you will forget all the injustice and just be glad you are there for the kids.  my vent

[jongarton]

parental struggles ..... good one! My parents gave me up for adoption when I was a lil tike, to this day I can't get a straight answer out of either one. My real mother pasted away knowing she had lied to me and didn't bother to help any when I confronted MY dad about certain issues that we discussed when I went looking for answers!

[gsmith169]

Let them know that you are the parent and they are the child what daddy says goes on at daddy's house and when you are at mommys what I say goes spare the rod spoil the child I believe in this so much but nowadays is you spank them they tell a teacher and cps is in your business don't let them run you down because you'll pay for it in the end