baby daddy

[jester2dr]

i can't stand men who can lay down to make a baby but not take care of one! most of the men i know at least talk to their kids, but some act like they don't even know them. when i get pregnant someday, if my baby daddy leaves me and won't pay child support, i think i'd take them to court and get their pay checks sent to me.

this may sound prudish,

but don't have sex before you know the person well enough to decide to marry them,

no sex = no kids

I already know that someone's gonna read this and say "what about birth control".....

Well my second son was conceived on birth control, (that was used correctly, and administered by a Dr.)

My wife at the time was nervous about telling me, but i was so excited and happy, and love my son indescribably!!!

[mrisha]

jester2dr is a great guy and men all around the world need to take lessons from him. I am honored to call him my friend. God bless you jester2dr!  

shhhhhh... dont tell anyone, but I have faults too...... 


this will just be between us right??? 

Hey Jester you may have faults but not where it counts.  You take care of your kids.

There are so many men out there who aren't worth the breath they take when it comes to taking care of their babies.

[ODOMS6598]

hey jester2dr  i have one of the good guys now too.  were not saying yall are perfect cause theres no such thing.  i love my husband and he is a great father and stepfather.  for reasons beyond his control, he is not able to see his daughter from his first marriage but i pay his child support every month on time.  she is still his responsiblity, even though his ex is a royal *bleep*(seriously)  my ex pays child support now.  i dont agree that the man should be able to just walk away.  fine if he dont want to see them, but they are his also.  he should have to struggle just as much as the mother.  i am a firm believer in child support and will take him to court to get it.  why should kids do without when the dad is living large?

[jester2dr]

hey jester2dr  i have one of the good guys now too.  were not saying yall are perfect cause theres no such thing.  i love my husband and he is a great father and stepfather.  for reasons beyond his control, he is not able to see his daughter from his first marriage but i pay his child support every month on time.  she is still his responsiblity, even though his ex is a royal *bleep*(seriously)  my ex pays child support now.  i dont agree that the man should be able to just walk away.  fine if he dont want to see them, but they are his also.  he should have to struggle just as much as the mother.  i am a firm believer in child support and will take him to court to get it.  why should kids do without when the dad is living large?

i agree totally!!!!

even if i couldn't see my kids, I would still pay,

whether I see them or not, they still have needs that I can help meet by supporting them,

and before it comes up (What if she doesn't use the money for the kids?)

as far as i'm concerned, it doesn't matter to me if she uses the money i send to go out dancing,

if she does, then that mean she doesn't have to use other money to do it, which leaves more money to help my kids...

without it she (though it would be me causing it) would have to take away from the kids to do it..... 

[liltmama101]

That is so true i have a baby daddy . I told myself that i should not have to remind him to take care of his child . He knows he has one just like i do.

[dreamyxo]

These are not real men they are little boys.  It disgusts me when a man just leaves and doesn't take care of his responsibility.  Some women make it difficult for some men to see their children for no reason but to be spiteful.  You can't make someone take responsibility so like the op said just do what you can and keep moving.  It's frustrating but focus on taking care of your children the best way you can and don't wast precious time and energy on something you can't control.

[TiffABarlow]

I agree with the last post why have sex with someone you don't really know well. No sex= No problem. When you have sex the wrong way it means you have this issue.

[mrserica04]

These are not real men they are little boys.  It disgusts me when a man just leaves and doesn't take care of his responsibility.   Some women make it difficult for some men to see their children for no reason but to be spiteful.  You can't make someone take responsibility so like the op said just do what you can and keep moving.  It's frustrating but focus on taking care of your children the best way you can and don't wast precious time and energy on something you can't control.

I'm going through something like this now, my husband can't stop thinking about himself to realize that he has a family to take care of and his wife is tired of doing it all on her own. He's an ok father to his son but I know that he can be better, but hey I can't force him to change, but at the same time I need for him to do what he has to do as a man. I have stressed this so much that it feels as if I am talking to a brick wall.

I really like the last quote. My kids are my life and I am going to raise my son and daughter to be better than me.

[Ami_farrow]

Its most interesting to me that most people say that MEN are the lying cheating dogs. Lol like women don't cheat? Girl power or not, I believe that just as many men cheat as women, females just know how to hide it better. Such a sexist stereotype.