Adult kids

[cateyes1]

Would you still stick up for your adult kids if need to? if my kids spouse or GF give them a hard time and they come to me and if I think that they are being emotionally hurt I will say something. Am I wrong. You see they will ALWAYS be my babies LOL. Would YOU stick up for your adult kids? maybe I'm being to over protective?

[ghunter]

I will if they are right but if they are wrong I will let them know

[bretay]

of course...and my granddaughters also

[bretay]

of course...and my granddaughters also

[heypeg]

It isn't a good idea to get involved in an adult child's love life, it never ends well.

[UGetPaid]

It isn't a good idea to get involved in an adult child's love life, it never ends well.

One thing to consider - it is okay to show concern or support, but NEVER bad mouth the significant other in that showing of support. If things smooth over between them, which is usually what is likely to happen - then you will become the bad guy for what you said. It is easy to forgive and forget something your spouse or girlfriend did to you once you work things out. But if a friend or sibling or parent said something bad about them when you were made at them? That sticks around forever!


Also, people will always give the benefit of the doubt to their own child - especially when only hearing one side of the story. But there are always two sides to every story and our children are not always 100% in the right as much as we want to think so.


NOT saying that this is the case here, but just keep in mind the possibility.  Give all the love and support possible, but don't hang yourself in the process.

[Nancy5]

It isn't a good idea to get involved in an adult child's love life, it never ends well.

One thing to consider - it is okay to show concern or support, but NEVER bad mouth the significant other in that showing of support. If things smooth over between them, which is usually what is likely to happen - then you will become the bad guy for what you said. It is easy to forgive and forget something your spouse or girlfriend did to you once you work things out. But if a friend or sibling or parent said something bad about them when you were made at them? That sticks around forever!


Also, people will always give the benefit of the doubt to their own child - especially when only hearing one side of the story. But there are always two sides to every story and our children are not always 100% in the right as much as we want to think so.


NOT saying that this is the case here, but just keep in mind the possibility.  Give all the love and support possible, but don't hang yourself in the process.

It isn't a good idea to get involved in an adult child's love life, it never ends well.

One thing to consider - it is okay to show concern or support, but NEVER bad mouth the significant other in that showing of support. If things smooth over between them, which is usually what is likely to happen - then you will become the bad guy for what you said. It is easy to forgive and forget something your spouse or girlfriend did to you once you work things out. But if a friend or sibling or parent said something bad about them when you were made at them? That sticks around forever!


Also, people will always give the benefit of the doubt to their own child - especially when only hearing one side of the story. But there are always two sides to every story and our children are not always 100% in the right as much as we want to think so.


NOT saying that this is the case here, but just keep in mind the possibility.  Give all the love and support possible, but don't hang yourself in the process.

Ugetpaid, I could not have said it better!  I agree with you 100%.   

[lywb2168]

I agree with UgetPaid 100%. I will always listen to what they say and support them with whatever they what to do, encourage them and listen, but not even when they were little I would get involved, they later will go and path up and you look like the witch.

[debidoo]

Nope you are not wrong in my opinion - I will always stick up for my sons although sometime LOL I give them a hard time myself but it is about issues to do with me.

[pkrahmer]

most of my nieces and nephews are adults now. if they needed help or support i would definately give it without question.

[linderlizzie]

Would you still stick up for your adult kids if need to? if my kids spouse or GF give them a hard time and they come to me and if I think that they are being emotionally hurt I will say something. Am I wrong. You see they will ALWAYS be my babies LOL. Would YOU stick up for your adult kids? maybe I'm being to over protective?

UGetPaid gave the best answer to this question. But I'm with you, cateyes 1, in saying they're always our babies.  That's exactly how I feel about it.

[UGetPaid]

But I'm with you, cateyes 1, in saying they're always our babies.  That's exactly how I feel about it.

I agree whole-heartedly. That is why it is so difficult NOT to say the negative things about the offending SO.