kids

[hensleyll]

how do i convince my grandsons it is ok for their father to take them in and away from all they know because there mom messed up and went to jail

[catherinedwhite]

I dont think there is an answer to your question.  All you can do is try to make them feel safe and keep as much routine as they do know now.
Like if they come to your house once a week, that should continue.  If they eat at 5pm, that should continue.  Routine is important for kids.
Good luck.

[hensleyll]

well we do that the one constant in their lives is me and my husbands house and their visits,my oldest grandson wants to live with me but his father says i want the chance to raise my own children i understand that i just dont trust him because of his violent past ,is this so hard to undrstand he beat my daughter their mother he has popped them shoved them down so hard bruised there but,i`m just supposed to say here,but if we fight and lose we will never see them

[freedavis]

All kids need a father so its worth trying fight for this. 

[hensleyll]

i know they need a father ,and we are not going to fight him ,but who will protect them we dont even know where he is going to take them

[dreamyxo]

Call cps to make sure the kids are monitored if you have concerns.  Make sure you stay in touch with them.  Let the father know that you will be in contact and you will be keeping an eye on them at all times.  Depending on how old they are you could give them their own cell phones that you can program to only call you and a few other numbers so that they can call you if anything goes wrong. 

[lgemini]

Keep it plan and simple, the worst thing is to lie to the child.

[mary33716]

Very hard to do my daughter in law went jail 3montbs so my son had his daughter here she 3 so don't understand she so has a 7yr old he started with his dad we explained and he know mom in jail for what she did wrong and that what happens he smart

[hensleyll]

they are almost aware of whats going but some details  we just don't put in there,in time,tryin let them  adjust to her being gone first