I don't believe in..

[anotherlaujgirl]

being hooked with a job by a friend or someone I know. I realize that's the whole purpose of "networking"
but for this one time in trying to be admitted as a Transfer student to Davis....

I will use this "networking" through my highschool counselor because she also works there and has connections with
other people.

Because like everything else, the decision can't be helped if I can't get that support. And I can't actually work hard for
them to see how good of a candidate I am..

-__- Nervous!

[pkrahmer]

the 1 thing I know is that all things will work out.
stay positive and and busy. Keep us posted 

[jmccaskill]

I appreciate and somewhat admire your attitudes on being 'independent'. However, you need to be cognizant of the fact that getting help from another is NOT necessarily 'using' them, or ceding your independence in any way. Probably 90% of jobs in the US are filled by people that are introduced in this way, that is just the way it is. Think about it, wouldn't you prefer to do business with people you have some knowledge of, even if it is slight and third hand, than total strangers?

People LOVE to help others, most people that is. They find it rewarding in so many ways. As to your success, that is entirely on YOU, and not on the person that might have helped you along the way.

Be happy that YOU have impressed someone to the degree that they are confident in you and your abilities to make an effort on your behalf. Your EARNED credibility is every bit your compensation as any money that you have earned!
 

[CharmedPhoenix]

Good Day New Mexico just had Jennifer Hill on who wrote a book, and has a website, called "Stop Hoping, Start Hunting"  She said that networking is 1/3 of the job hunting process.

[Liquidfire_43]

There is a major difference of networking between your friends/peers and your counselor ... Your counselor would only help you build your resumes, gives you tips on what not to do, and they could also recommend you from someone they know... Tl;DR more general on how to land a job....Your friends and peers however is on the job, so they could pull some strings... Very valuable if they are other people who are applying and there is only a few spots left for hire. If you qualify for the job then everything is good... tl;dr more on demand (specific)


Networking is important for people who are eager to find jobs... Especially if your working with a high class job, referrals is the only way to get into (other then having a 4.0 GPA with crazy amounts of community service/trainings)... I know this one guy who got a FBI internship for helping out a DEA guy on the road (since he works as a road side assistance) several times... I also heard some people with a Masters and a decent GPA in Engneering, but can't find a job no matter how hard they look... It all comes down to finding jobs and feeding yourself or you family

Although its true you get hooked in by your friend, you still have to work hard to stay in the job and also not make your friend look like a complete ******

[kapeh12]

Personally, I've gotten tired of the "networking" buzz word.  Basically it's the current way of stating the old proverb "it's not always what you know, but who you know".

Dismissing friend/family job opportunities outright may not always be to your advantage - but you need to be the judge about the type of "jobs" they are recommending.  If it's them feeding you random job openings they are finding...only act if it's something you think you are interested in.  If the person actually works at the place and thinks you'd like working there - that might be an opportunity to investigate, particularly if the friend/family member knows your qualification and passions and feels this job would make a good fit for you.

Sometimes those latter recommendations are better than a counselor's as your friend probably has a deeper understanding of what you are looking for.

That's how I got the career I'm currently in - via a friend's recommendation (or "networking" before it became a buzz term).  We were friends from a dance club and from our common major in college.  I was a few years ahead of her, and when she graduated and needed a job, I got her a job at a LensCrafters where I had made lab manager.  After a few months there, she got a job at a computer programming company, and she recommended I interview there as they were looking for more people.  I investigated the opportunity she provided me, got an interview, and eventually got the job...and it was a big step up from where I was.

[alice44]

Best of luck to you in your future decisions.

[anotherlaujgirl]

Thanks.

And yeah, Its how my parents raised me, to do things on your own efforts,
but these days, it's not always based on that.

[msmoneybags48]

While I am for independence, don't refuse help if you can get it.  Not everyone in this dog eat dog world expects something for them helping you.  They help because it is a good thing to do.  Good luck.