HOW CHILDREN TREAT THERE PARENTS

[ladyclassic7499]

I HAVE A DAUGHTER THAT JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO TALK TO ME WITHOUT USING THE 4 LETTER WORD.  I HIT HER CAR WITH MY CAR DOOR BY ACCIDENT AND I SAID I WAS SORRY AND IT DIDN'T LEAVE A DENT OR A MARK AND SHE WENT OFF LIKE A DRUNKEN SAILOR IN A PARKING LOT WITH PEOPLE AROUND.  WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD OF DONE. SHE IS 33 YEARS OLD.

[Abrupt]

I don't know, honestly.  My father could intentionally do that to my car while stating "I am doing this because I want to and want to waste your money" and I would not speak to him in that way or feel any anger at all because if he wanted to do that I would have no objections at all.

Perhaps you should have nothing more to do with her until she learns respect.  Do not think of this as retaliation or being mean but that you are trying to teach her an important lesson that she can only demonstrate over a long period of time by her actions (i.e. she can't simply try the "sorry" approach and be done with it).

[blondie71]

My child is going to be 21 this october and he somtimes talks to me like that and it hurts but he comes and tells me he is sorry.  I would never talk tomy mother or father that way, but kids these days as young as 6 I see them talking to there parents like crap.  I also think each generation gets worse.  My neice she flat out told her monther to F off and she was only 15.  That is just the way she is and her mother bends over backwards to keep her out of trouble.  I told my sister she is an adult and there is nothing you can do to keep her from doing what she does but this time she will go to jail and not just kid probation.

[sigmapi1501]

There their they're

[PGS28]

It sounds like you did something she resents you for.  Either that or she's just a jerk (sorry).  This is why it's so vital for parents to obtain and maintain control and respect over their children from a very young age.  That kind of behavior is not acceptable.  I am 30, and although my mother did many despicable things I don't curse at or even around her.  You need to either get counseling to uncover the root problem or try to talk to her on your own.  You need to demand respect, you are worthy of it.

[Hurricanekiz]

my daughter talks to me how Caillou talks to his mother!

[smarie62]

If she does not live with you, you should have told her to leave your home and not to come back until she apologize.  Children today do not know how to respect their parents because some of us have let them get away with everything the first time a child that you have given birth to and I really do not care if you did not but if you feed that person, let them live in your home and raised them and they are your children you should have knock her into next year because I would have.

[Amanda2044]

No offense to anyone here, but it's all in the way you raise a child. If you demand respect from day one then 10, 20, 30+ years down the road you will still have it. I watched my mom go through it with my younger brother. Although she was the best parent she could be, she was a single mom working 3 jobs. She had to do that for about 5-6 years and by then, my brother was "lost". He was never raised to do his own laundry, dishes, cook, or any other responsibilities. And now when something is asked of him, it's like you're asking him to climb Mt Everest!


On the other hand, counsiling may help, like other have pointed out. But don't expect a 100% improvement anytime soon.