Open marriage? Seriously

[mall0271]

Open marriage discussions come up on the talk show circuit every now and then. I have been married and divorced. And I look forward to marrying again. I think marriage is a great thing.

But open marriages really puzzle me. I don't get it. You love your spouse, but you have a lover on the side? And your spouse is okay with it? I don't think they work out in the long run.

What do you think?

[dwiley11]

sure way to divorce

[jzmom]

I don't understand an open marriage?  Why get married if you want to fool around with others too?  No thank you!

[ktheodos]

I don't understand an open marriage?  Why get married if you want to fool around with others too?  No thank you!

Same here....i first thought this post might be about Newt Gingrich's debacle

[Mykat]

I thought this was about Newt Gingrich too, though he may have inspired the topic..Isn't marriage taking an oath to be faithful to one person?  An open marriage makes no sense to me. 

[LaTashaS28]

I do not understand it either, I mean what is the point in getting married if you want to see other people, it makes no sense to me at all. But if that is what they want to do and it makes the couple happy...then more power to them. I know that I do not like sharing at all, lol.

[ghunter]

I don't agree with Open marriage and if you get marriage and still want to sleep around then don't get marry, stay single and sleep with whomever.

[samrhett2]

I agree with all of you but I think that people who agree to that really have a business arrangement or business partnership and not really a marriage.  I think they can look the other way because they don't really care and a divorce would either hurt them financially or politically or create some other issue like cause embarassment.  In other words, I think only people who don't really have a marriage to begin with would agree to an open marriage.  

[Tresbn00]

I don't think that there is a chance of having an open marriage without someone getting hurt whether it is the spouse that is tasting other fruits, the spouse that is waiting at home, or the person who is appeasing the married person's taste...someone is going to get hurt.  The person outside of the marital group is likely to fall in love with the person that they are sharing.  Why get married if you don't plan on being monogamous...isn't that what it is all about?

[jkunert]

Well i don't have to worry for now because i am single 4 now.  i don't understand why people want a open marriage either.  if u love someone u love them, but marriage i can't have an open marriage.

[lrb3211]

I think people pursue open marriages because they feel like each partner they have adds more value to their life, and the more partners they have the more valuable they feel.
Personally, I think its
If your primary partner doesn't offer you everything you could ever need and you feel invaluable with them, then they aren't the one for you.

[tuyetmai]

Open marriage discussions come up on the talk show circuit every now and then. I have been married and divorced. And I look forward to marrying again. I think marriage is a great thing.

But open marriages really puzzle me. I don't get it. You love your spouse, but you have a lover on the side? And your spouse is okay with it? I don't think they work out in the long run.

What do you think?

I like a source of cheese but if you ask me what I want in my burger some how I kept said "american cheese" please...  I think that the first one come up to me.

[raven1114]

well there are a lot of people that it works quite well for so there must be something to it.

[BizELady]

I could never be in an open marriage.  I don't like to share my significant other.