how do you break up with you bf or gf

[lrodriguez4]

have to end it with the boyfriend that i was with for 11 yrs. He bawled his eyes out to death, felt so so bad because i been there, tried to comfort him by letting him stay alittle longer so it would sink in to his head that it was over,but i think it didnt help non,but he finally did move on and are just friends now. I was just brutally honest with him

[hicaniplay]

I'm between "aww" and "lol".
Breaking up is never fun or easy. But hey, at least you managed it and are still friends!



Reminds me of one of mine. Cripes, it was crazy. And I did most of mine on the phone!
I mean, I thought he could tell it was coming, I'd even tried before hand but it was a bit ... I dunno. He didn't want to take any hints and I was wincing too much in embarrassment at his clinging to press most of the time. How crazy that looking back on it, I tried to tell him it was over like three times lol *wince wince wince*


I consider him a friend, but I had to completely avoid him for a year to just make sure he knew that there was zero possibility of getting back together. He still asked about it.


BE FIRM. That's what I took from that break up.

[oldbuddy]

Just slip out the back, Jack, make a new plan, Stan
Don't need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me
Hop on the bus, Gus, don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee, and get yourself free

[ShalieNahito]

have to end it with the boyfriend that i was with for 11 yrs. He bawled his eyes out to death, felt so so bad because i been there, tried to comfort him by letting him stay alittle longer so it would sink in to his head that it was over,but i think it didnt help non,but he finally did move on and are just friends now. I was just brutally honest with him

I dated my boyfriend after 6 months. I quickly found out that he wasn't good for me at all. He wasn't over his last breakup; always comparing me and his ex. He didn't want sex till after marriage (to me that was a good thing) BUT he wanted to share the same bed. He was a hidden control freak. I say hidden because the way he worded things like, 'its your chose BUT this is how I WANT it to be.' (He really did emphasis the word but and want) and repeat the same thing 5 times in 5 different ways that meant the same way. Then he was sleazy with money/gifts. His birthday was coming up and he was all like I want this gift it only cost 10$ then he want something different that would cost like 20$ and each time he changed his mind on a gift he wanted the more expensive that certain gift would have been.
Lastly, he started to be rude and disrespectful to me and my family. That drew the line! I didn't even want to see his face or hear his voice again. So, even though it was inappropriate I broke up with him though e-mail. I was also brutally honest with him too and that wasn't enough and kept pushing for answers and harassing me. Teh... I put a end to that real fast.
In case anyone is wondering (lol) I never spent more than 10$ on the brat.

[JaiStarr]

  Just ended my 5 year relationship [kinda]...I didn't want to but I had to. simply unforgivable. Its a bit weird b/c everything almost the same  but I made it clear that we're not together and wont be. I guess I'm taking the heartache in stride its complicated

[tantricia44]

lrodriguez4 11yrs what could the poor soul have done to get dumped? I mean some people can't stay married for 78 hrs now a days! Being together for 11yrs you should get the couples award!I can't support your actions b/c I feel sorry for the breake. Getting dumped is not fun, I should know, I'm the one that always gets dumped in the end! There was only one time that I actually broke up w/the guy, we had hooked up again after he broke up w/me. He landed in the hospital & got me to feel for him again. But as the days,months went by, I remember how horrible he was to me, flirting in front of me when we were dating b4 he broke up with me. I kept thinking he's cheating on me, he's so friendly w/all the bimbos! There came a point where I couldn't trust him from his past actions that I didn't feel anything but regret,on edge,anger, hatred,suspect,distrust! When I broke up w/him it was at his mom's house. I told him everything I was feeling everything that was bad. I kissed his dog goodbye & when the door slammed behind me, I felt a large weight fly off my shoulders! My only regret is that I had to leave the dog. I still miss that dog!LOL!!!!!! 

[eman27]

I hope I never have to go that route... What caused your breakup if you don't mind me asking?

[pfrancis001]

My ex bf told "S*&%, if u dont like there's the door. "  so I got up and just walk out the door.   He was talking to his ex wife and called her babe on the phone,  which i did not like.  children are all adults now and she always calling for one or the other.  lilke they are little.

[Snoozey]

My ex used to talk about his exs all the time, it drove me insane! He claimed that he didn't even realize he was doing it.

[poppy1]

Through face to face conversation! Its always hard but time mends all broken hearts!

[sigmapi1501]

Just start cheating on the other person and act real distant.... then they'll break up with you.

[noirlupe]

B reaking up with someone is hard but the only way to make it better is to be honest.

[squirrelgirl44]

I am debating breaking it off for good with my boyfriend of 2.5 years. Only thing holding me back is his birthday and Christmas are both this week.